Pregnancy

Can you get pregnant when you’re on your period?

Yes, your body can ovulate (release an egg) at any time during your cycle, even when you’re having your period.  To protect yourself from becoming pregnant, it’s best to use birth control and condoms every time you have sex.

can you get pregnant from anal?

Getting pregnant through anal sex is very unlikely. In theory, it’s possible that it could happen if semen from the area gets into the vagina. A much bigger worry than pregnancy is STDs.

Not only can people get STDs from anal sex, the risk of getting an STD is even higher with anal sex than vaginal sex since the lining of the rectum is thin and can tear easily.

If you decide to have anal sex, use a condom and lube every time. Because there is less lubrication with anal sex, condoms are more likely to break than with vaginal sex (so use a lot of water-based lube).

how can a 14 year old girl get pregnant with a 14 year old guy?

pregnancy happens when a sperm cell (from a guy) meets an egg cell (from a girl). pregnancy usually happens through sexual intercourse (or “vaginal” intercourse). once people have gone through puberty, pregnancy can happen no matter the ages of the people having sex.

using a condom and/or being on birth control greatly reduces the risk of becoming pregnant.

what are the best options to prevent pregnancy without using condom or contraceptive pills ?

The most effective options to prevent pregnancy are what we call Long Acting Reversible Contraceptives, or LARCs. These methods include IUDs and the Implant, both of which are over 99% effective. IUDs are effective anywhere from 3 – 12 years (depending on the kind of IUD), and the Implant is effective for 3 years. A medical provider inserts the method and then you don’t have to remember to take a pill or anything– both methods can be removed by a medical provider at any time.

Abstinence or “not right now” is also an option for preventing pregnancy. If you practice abstinence 100% of the time, it will be 100% effective– though it requires willpower. It’s a good idea to have a back-up plan (like condoms and/or Emergency Contraception) if abstinence is your birth control of choice.

Other methods such as the shot, ring, and patch can also be very effective. They require a little more maintenance than an IUD or Implant– you’ll have to think about them once a week (patch), once a month (ring), or every three months (shot)–but that is still easier for some people than taking a pill every day.

Keep in mind that none of these methods protect against STDs, so unless you and your partner have both been tested (and treated, if necessary), using condoms to prevent STDs is still important.

How are twins born?

Conceiving (getting pregnant with) twins can happen in two ways. In some cases, just one egg is fertilized by one sperm, but within a few days, the fertilized zygote splits. Each half develops into one fetus/ baby over the course of the pregnancy. This is how identical twins are born. In other cases (more common), two eggs are released at the same time and both fertilized by separate sperm; this results in two non-identical fetuses/ babies (fraternal twins).

If a pregnant woman is infected with diseases such as diabetes and others, can she infected her child as well?

Some diseases caused by bacteria or viruses can be passed from a pregnant woman to her baby during pregnancy or childbirth– some examples are HIV or chickenpox.

Other diseases have an increased chance of occurring in both mother and child because they share genes.  Some examples are Type 1 Diabetes and Sickle Cell Anemia.

There are other diseases that either mother or child may have because of environmental factors, lifestyle, or exposure to infection– but they aren’t necessarily related to genes or transmitted during pregnancy. Some examples are Asthma and Type 2 Diabetes.

If you are concerned about a health condition or disease, or health during pregnancy or childbirth, you should talk with your physician. They can help you learn more about prevention and treatment.

My friend is 13 and she told me her boyfriend got her pregnant. If her mom finds out about it she’ll kick her out. And she wants to actually keep the baby! What should she do?

This is a tough one, and you’re a good friend to look for information.

First, your friend should know that she has the right to full options counseling (where she can talk to a health care provider about all of her options, including parenting, adoption, and abortion). She has the right to continue the pregnancy and parent the child if she chooses. She has the right to stay in school while pregnant and parenting. More information on teens’ rights here.

Unfortunately, parents aren’t always supportive of their children’s decisions. Hopefully, your friend can talk to an adult that she feels safe with and knows she can trust–even if that’s not her mom right now.

We’d suggest that your friend come to a Maine Family Planning health center to talk with a health care provider about all of this. We can give her a pregnancy test, talk to her about talking with her mom, and connect her with the information and resources she’ll need.

 

Me and my girlfriend were having sex the other day, she was having her period so we decided to have sex anally, I am 19 and she is 45, does this mean she is able to get pregnant, because I didnt pull out in time

The risk of pregnancy with anal sex is very  low, because sperm needs to travel through the vagina to the uterus in order for pregnancy to occur. However, a woman can get pregnant even if a guy ejaculates just a little bit of semen on or near the vagina, so there is a small risk.

The risk of spreading STDs through anal sex is still very high, even with withdrawal/ pulling out. Condoms are a much safer choice to avoid STDs and pregnancy.

If you or your girlfriend want more information about birth control, condoms, and/or STD testing, you can get affordable, confidential services at your local Family Planning clinic.

What if someone hasn’t had sex but thinks she is pregnant from jacking a guy off and touching her self?

Many a person’s first sexual activity, masturbation isn’t only for solo play — it may be even more fun with company! Masturbation with more than one person is often referred to as mutual masturbation. Whether solo or social, this activity is one of the safest forms of sex play. Yet there are a few helpful precautions for preventing pregnancy and STIs.

For pregnancy prevention, try to avoid getting cum and precum on or near the vulva. Even though the risk of pregnancy is significantly reduced if semen comes into contact with only the external parts of the vulva, there’s still a potential risk of pregnancy. Contact with mucous membranes (such as the inner labia, clitoris, vagina walls, or anus) allows for risk of transmission of STIs.

Because genital contact with fresh sperm carries a slight risk of pregnancy, washing and drying your hands thoroughly is your best bet. If this isn’t practical, keep a towel by the bed and dry your hands thoroughly. It may also be beneficial to wait an additional few minutes, which you may creatively spend exciting your partner without your hands.

 

can you get pregnant if your vaginal wall isnt broken. me and my bf had tried something new and i thought he still had the condom on but it he didn’t. and i don’t know if it had gotten in side of me (if it can).

It’s a little hard to tell from your message exactly what happened, but we’ll give it a try!

Vaginal walls don’t typically “break”– they can tear during childbirth, or small abrasions (almost like scrapes) can happen during intercourse. These abrasions can make it easier to transmit STDs, though they wouldn’t have an impact on pregnancy.

The hymen (a small bit of skin that covers some or all of the vaginal opening) often tears, “breaks,” or stretches by the time a girl reaches her teens. It’s possible to have sex while the hymen is still there, and it can be torn or stretched as a result of sexual activity.

If semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis during orgasm/ ejaculation) gets inside of the vagina, pregnancy is possible. Condoms and birth control greatly reduce this risk. If no semen got on or inside of the vagina, there should not be a risk of pregnancy. It’s hard to know exactly what happened in your situation, but hopefully this information helps.

Finally, removing a condom or not putting a condom on when the other partner has asked you to wear one or believes that you are wearing one can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You and your partner should always be clear on what you consent to and your boundaries; if a partner does not respect the activities you’ve consented to (including condom use), you may want to talk to an adult you trust, a provider at a Family Planning clinic, or other supportive professionals.

Please note that we answer website questions about once a week– if you ever need to hear from us sooner, try the text line, which we respond to within 24 hours. 

What are female condoms?

The female condom is a thin pouch inserted into the vagina or anus. It can be used by both men and women for safer vaginal and anal sex. It blocks sperm from reaching the egg to prevent pregnancy (it is 79% effective, on average, but 95% effective when used perfectly), and also protects against STDs, including HIV.  The female condom is disposable, and should be carefully removed and thrown away after use.
The female condom can be a little more expensive than the more common male condom, but can offer women a little more control over condom use.  It’s also made out of polyurethane (not latex), so it’s safe for people who are allergic to latex.

You can find out more about female condoms here.


What’s the best choice if you’re pregnant and 16?

Only you can know the best choice for you. Hopefully, there is an adult in your life who you can trust and talk to about your choices. You can also make an appointment at a Family Planning clinic— our providers are compassionate, non-judgmental, and can talk to you about all your options. Family Planning services are confidential and affordable. Coming in to talk to us doesn’t mean you’ve made any particular decision– it just means you’re getting all the information.

When a person is pregnant, no matter their age, they have three main options. Those options are to carry the pregnancy to term and to parent the baby, to carry the pregnancy to term and place the baby for adoption, or to have an abortion to end the pregnancy. Again, only you can decide what’s right for you, and you deserve to make your choice with support and dignity.

No matter what you decide, you have rights. You can read more about teen’s rights to seek abortion, pursue adoption, or to carry the pregnancy and to parent on our website.

My boyfriend and I were fooling around and he kept wiping his precum off with his hand and wiping it on his shirt. Later he got on top of me and kept wiping it off he didn’t go inside he just kept rubbing it on me and at this point I didn’t have panties on. Later he c**** in his hand and then wiped it off using his underwear. Five minutes later he fingered me do you think I could be pregnant?

There are a few different factors to address here. First is whether a person can get pregnant from precum. Even though the chances are very small that precum could cause a pregnancy, it’s not completely risk-free (precum can carry sperm if any is “left over” in the urethra from a previous ejaculation). There’s also a higher risk of transmitting some STDs through precum.

As far as your boyfriend wiping his hands off before fingering you, that shouldn’t be a risk. Sperm live in semen (fluid) that nourishes sperm and gives them something to swim in. If the semen dries up, is wiped away or absorbed into clothes, the sperm die.

Another question is whether pregnancy can happen if any fluid gets on the outside of the vagina. For pregnancy to occur, sperm must be ejaculated INTO the vagina or directly onto the vaginal opening– it’s not totally clear what happened in your situation, but hopefully this helps you figure out what your risk might have been.

For pregnancy prevention, try to avoid getting cum and precum on or near the vulva. Even though the risk of pregnancy is significantly reduced if semen comes into contact with only the external parts of the vulva, there’s still a potential risk of pregnancy. If you are worried about pregnancy or would like to talk to someone about using birth control (or just get some condoms), the providers at family planning clinics can help.

Is abortion a good way to get rid of my baby?

Abortion is a safe, legal medical procedure used to end a pregnancy. The majority of abortions happen early in the first trimester, when the pregnancy is called an embryo. After 10 weeks (10 weeks after the last period), the pregnancy is called a fetus.

If you have given birth to a baby and do not feel that you are able to take care of him or her, adoption is a safe, legal option for finding a new family for your baby.

 

how are babies made?

Most pregnancies happen after a man and women have unprotected sex. Pregnancy can also happen by alternative fertilization, where a health care provider inserts semen into the vagina through a process called in vitro fertilization (IVF).

Pregnancy starts when a sperm cell fertilizes an egg and the egg implants into the lining of the uterus. In order to give birth to a baby, a pregnancy must last for 9 months, although babies can come a few weeks early or late. During this time, the baby grows and changes within the uterus.

Sometimes pregnancies end early, either through miscarriage or abortion. In these cases, a pregnancy does not result in giving birth to a baby.

Sex, Etc. has a really great description on how pregnancies happen here.

 

Hi. 2 days ago I had sex and we used a condom. But it broke and we took it out straight away. is there any chance I could be pregnant? I’m not on the pill and I don’t have a bar.

If your partner ejaculated (came) before the condom broke, and you’re not on any type of birth control, there is a chance of pregnancy. Even if your partner did not ejaculate, there is still a slight risk of pregnancy from pre-cum (the small amount of fluid that comes out of the penis before orgasm/ ejaculation).

If you’re worried about getting pregnant but don’t want to be, your only option for preventing pregnancy after a few days is to take Emergency Contraception (EC). Plan B is an EC pill you can get (without a prescription) from drug stores or any Family Planning clinic; it’s effective up to 3 days after unprotected sex, but it’s more effective the sooner you take it. Ella is another type of EC pill, and it can be effective up to 5 days after unprotected sex. You do need a prescription for Ella, though, or you can pick it up at any Family Planning clinic. EC prevents pregnancy by keeping your body from releasing an egg– EC is not an abortion.

There’s definitely still a risk of transmitting STDs when a condom breaks (because of skin-to-skin contact, pre-cum, and/or any semen (cum) that might have been in the condom before it broke), so if you haven’t both been tested, you may want to schedule a confidential test with a Family Planning clinic.

 

What are the signs of pregnancy?

The only way for a person to know for sure if they are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test. These are available from drug stores or at your local Family Planning clinic.

Pregnancy symptoms are often pretty general and could be any number of things– sometimes pregnancy symptoms are very similar to the side effects of birth control or the symptoms a person has during PMS or when having their period.

Some of the most common symptoms people have when they are pregnant include nausea and/or vomiting, breast tenderness, fatigue or feeling really tired, and mood swings. You can read more about pregnancy here.

How long do you have to wait to test to see if you are pregnant?

Most pregnancy tests will be accurate within a day or two after a missed period (so, a day or two after you were supposed to start your period, but haven’t started yet).

Me and my girlfriend were humping. We both were wearing underwear and shorts both. I accidentally cum in my shorts. We are worried if this may cause pregnancy to her. The reason being even her shorts had a small spot of wetness from my shorts. After reading about similar cases online, I came to know that sperms can travel in wet and hot conditions. Her panty was also wet. Hence I feel that if the wet part on her shorts accidentally touched her panty, what would be the risk of pregnancy. Need urgent help. Also she was to take contraceptive pill, she has a ovarian cyst. I’m worried if it may increase the impact of the associated side effects like headache, nausea etc.

If both of you had clothes on the whole time (even if they were wet and the fabric is thin), there is very little chance of pregnancy. Sperm can not travel through clothing.

However, sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can travel through clothing, so if either of you have been sexually active in the past and haven’t been tested for STDs, it might be a good idea to get checked. If you and your girlfriend are fooling around or engage in any type of sexual activity in the future, it’s a good idea to use condoms— condoms help reduce the risk of STDs AND pregnancy.

It’s a great idea for your girlfriend to use some form of birth control so that you don’t have to worry about pregnancy in the future. She’ll need to talk to a medical professional about her individual health, symptoms, goals, and concerns. There are many forms of birth control available, each with different kinds of hormones (or no hormones) that affect the body differently.

 

What is tubal pregnancy?

A tubal pregnancy– also called an ectopic pregnancy– is when an egg is fertilized in the fallopian tubes and implants there instead of implanting in the uterus (as with most viable pregnancies).

When a fertilized egg implants outside of the uterus (in this case, in the fallopian tube), it is not viable–  meaning it cannot develop and survive. Ectopic/ tubal pregnancies must be treated by a medical professional, otherwise the future fertility, health, and life of the woman is at risk.

 

 

So my girlfriend and I have been together for a while now, and she’s always wanted a kid even though we’re both young. I’m just turning 16 a couple of days ago and she’s been 15 since February. We use condoms when we have sex, but if she were to get pregnant accidentally what could her parents do? She’s against abortion and would want to keep it. I’d be happy as long as it’s with her, but I don’t know what her parents could do. Could they keep me from seeing her and the child? Would I not be allowed to be in either of their lives? I just need help. I’m always on my email so, get back whenever is most convenient to you. Thank you.

Because this service is anonymous, we can’t send you an email or contact you personally, so we hope you see our response here. If you (or anyone reading this) has questions and want a direct answer, please use our text line.

It sounds like you and your girlfriend have a good relationship and have thought about whether you want a family in the future. We’re glad you’re talking to each other and using condoms now. It can be very difficult to have a baby before finishing high school—it becomes more difficult to graduate and to find a job that pays well enough to support a family—so we encourage everyone (both teens and adults) to wait until they are in a stable relationship, have a secure job, and have finished their education before starting a family.

It would be a good idea for your girlfriend to come to a Maine Family Planning clinic to see if a more effective form of birth control would work for her (so that she doesn’t “accidentally” get pregnant)—all of our services are confidential and affordable.  We could also talk to her about thinking about having a family in the future and planning for that in the best way possible.

In terms of you and your girlfriend’s rights:

Your girlfriend’s parents can not legally force her to have an abortion or to place the baby for adoption (or to continue the pregnancy). That doesn’t mean that they can’t tell her what they would like her to do, and it doesn’t mean that they will support her (financially or otherwise) in raising a child.

If you and your girlfriend did have a child, you would have legal rights and responsibilities as the parents (including the responsibility to support the child to the best of your ability). If her parents attempted to prevent you from seeing the child, you could ask a court to order that you have the right to visit the child. The court would review the situation and make a decision based on what’s in the child’s best interest. This is probably not an ideal way to start a family, so again, we encourage you and your girlfriend to talk to a medical provider or an adult you trust about planning for a family once you’re older.

You can read more about teen parents’ rights here.

It stings after I pee, my breast are tender and I’ve been peeing and sleeping a lot more than usual also, sometimes I have really bad cramps and I feel sick in the morning. But I haven’t missed my period… And I think I’m pregnant.. I have no idea what’s going on.. Every time I google the symptoms they all say early signs or pregnancy.

It can be upsetting not to know what’s going on with your body.

The symptoms you describe could be related to pregnancy, or they could be symptoms of an STD. They could also be symptoms of one or more completely different things, like endometriosis, a UTI, or something else completely. The only way to know if you’re pregnant is to take a pregnancy test, and the only way to know if you have an STD or a UTI is to get tested. Your local family planning clinic can do both of these tests.

We can’t diagnose anything over the question & answer service, but it sounds like there’s enough going on with your body that you should see a medical provider.

 

I had unprotected sex last night and I’m freaking out. What should I do?

It’s understandable that you’re worried, given the possible risks of having unprotected sex. But there are things you can do to reduce the negative effects of such an incident.

If you’re worried about pregnancy, you may want to consider getting emergency contraception as soon as possible. If the thought of catching an STD has you freaking out, you’ll want to consider getting tested. Although the day after having sex is too soon to get an STD test, you can call your local family planning clinic to find out when would be the best time to come in for a test.

My dads gay, and him and his boyfriend told me their having a baby, is this true?

We don’t know your dad or his boyfriend, so we don’t know whether they are telling you the truth or not.

In general, two men can have a baby in a few different ways. They can adopt a baby, they can use a surrogate (a woman who carries the pregnancy and gives birth, and then the men adopt the baby when it’s born), or if one of the men in the couple is a transgender man who still has his uterus, he could get pregnant and carry the pregnancy/ have the baby.

There are all kinds of ways for people to build their families, no matter their sex or gender. If your dad is a person you trust, he’s likely telling you the truth. If you’re comfortable, you should ask him to talk with you about this.

 

I am under 18 and was curious to know, if I had an abortion, would you have to tell my parents?

We encourage young people to involve their parents in health care decisions whenever possible. By providing their love and support, parents can play a crucial role for their teen during a challenging time.

In Maine, someone under the age of 18 can obtain confidential reproductive health care, including abortion care, without parental consent or notification.

 

Can guys get pregnant?

Pregnancy requires a fertilized egg and a uterus where a fetus can grow and develop. For most of the population, this means being a female.

However, some female-to-male transgender people can become pregnant, while still identifying and living as men. This is possible for individuals who still have functioning ovaries and a uterus.

Can you get pregnant if you are having anal sex?

Getting pregnant through anal sex is unlikely. In theory, it’s possible that it could happen if semen from the area gets into the vagina. A much bigger worry than pregnancy is STDs.

Not only can people get STDs from anal sex, the risk of getting an STD is even higher with anal sex than vaginal sex since the lining of the rectum is thin and can tear easily.

If you decide to have anal sex, use a condom every time. Because there is less lubrication with anal sex, condoms are more likely to break than with vaginal sex. So use a lot of water-based lube.

Lots of people can have STDs without knowing it. Even if they don’t have symptoms themselves, they can still pass STDs on to a partner. So protect yourself with a condom whenever you have any type of sex — vaginal, oral, or anal.

It’s also a good idea to get tested for STDs at least once a year and whenever you have a new partner.

 

Is teen pregnancy common?

Not as common as it was 20 years ago!  At least, that’s the case in Maine.  Our state’s teen pregnancy rate has been dropping for years. Maine once had one of the highest teen pregnancy rates in the U.S. but now it’s down to a rate of 35 per 1,000 teens under the age of twenty. The teen pregnancy rate for the U.S. is about twice as high.

I Think I’m Pregnant, Now What?

The first step is to find out if you really are pregnant. You can get a pregnancy test and options counseling at any family planning clinic.

If you live in Maine, you can find the nearest clinic here.

How long does an abortion take?

We do everything we can to make abortion visits as short as possible, but we suggest that patients plan on being here four hours.

The visit consists of:

  • a personal medical history
  • information about the procedure
  • obtaining a patient’s informed consent
  • the abortion procedure
  • the recovery period

 

If you are pregnant, can you pass a bacterial STD to your baby?

That’s a question with a really complex answer that we can’t really answer here.

If you are concerned about STDs during pregnancy, you should talk with your midwife or OB/GYN physician.

I started my new pack of birth control pills two days late, on Wednesday. I took two pills as soon as I received my new pack, then Wednesday’s pill at the regular time. My period (?) came shortly after I took the two pills, but lasted only a few hours. The same thing happened the next day. What’s going on?

Missing birth control pills and then making them up can cause irregular bleeding.

Because you forgot to take some of your pills, it’s possible you didn’t have effective pregnancy prevention during the time you missed those pills. You many want to consider getting a pregnancy test if you had sex without a condom during this time.

 

Can you get pregnant on your period?

Yes, your body can ovulate (release an egg) at any time during your cycle, even when you’re having your period.  To protect yourself from becoming pregnant, it’s best to use birth control and condoms every time you have sex.

Do condoms make you pregnant?

Pregnancy results when a fertilized egg settles into a uterus where a fetus can grow and develop.

Condoms, used correctly, do a pretty good job of making sure that sperm can’t reach the egg to fertilize it.  So, no, condoms do not make you pregnant.

Did you know you can get free condoms at your local family planning clinic?

What should I do since by sister is pregnant and she is out on the streets?

It’s wonderful that you’re trying to help your sister. By “out on the streets” do you mean that your sister is homeless? If so, then you may want to give her information about resources to help people who need a place to live.

This list of shelters in Maine is very helpful. Your sister will qualify for different services, depending on her age.

You might also want to talk with your parents or a trusted adult; they may be able to give you support and advice that will be helpful to both you and your sister.

Can I get pregnant from swallowing cum?

Since your digestive system and reproductive system are not connected in any way, the answer is no.

Just as the food you eat gets digested by passing through your gastrointestinal (GI) tract, so does semen. The process of digestion kills any sperm that may be present. And even if that didn’t happen, pregnancy from swallowing semen is still impossible because your mouth doesn’t lead directly to your reproductive organs.

 

However, it’s important to remember that STDs such as herpes and HPV can be transmitted during oral sex if you or your partner is infected. It is important to practice safer sex techniques, such as using a condom or dental dam, during oral sex to reduce your risk of contracting or transmitting STDs. For more information on STD testing, contact your local family planning clinic.

I think I’m pregnant. I’m 14 and I had unprotected sex 3 weeks ago. Does family planning let you get free pregnancy tests?

All of our services, including pregnancy tests, are offered on what’s called a ‘sliding fee scale.’ This means that we give discounts based on income guidelines. Since you’re only 14 years old and probably don’t have a job yet, you would most likely qualify for a free test.

Click here to find the family planning clinic closest to you.

 

I am on the depo provera shot and I was due for a shot from September 5 to October 20 and I got it on the 9 of September. I had unprotected sex a couple days later, and I usually have spotting but after my last shot which was my 3rd shot, I haven’t spotted at all. Could I be pregnant? My boyfriend pulled out before he came but I’m worried.

First of all, congratulations to you and your boyfriend for using an effective birth control method to avoid pregnancy.

We usually give people a two-week window for getting their follow-up Depo shot, so your shot was probably due September 5th – 20th.  If you had your shot on September 9th, you are well within the window and should have good birth control coverage. Many people find that after their third Depo shot, they stop spotting altogether, so what you’re experiencing is perfectly normal.

If you’re still worried about being pregnant, you can visit your local family planning health center for a “peace of mind” pregnancy test.

Will I get pregnant? I had anal sex.

You can’t get pregnant from anal sex– the only kind of sex that can result in pregnancy is through vaginal intercourse.  STDs can still be transmitted through anal sex, though, so even though you don’t have to worry about pregnancy, it’s a good idea to use condoms to keep yourself safe from infections.

Do you guys give free pregnancy tests at family planning association of maine?

All family planning services, including pregnancy tests, are offered on a sliding fee scale. That means we take into account your household income and some other factors when determining what your charge will be. Many people qualify for free services.

We never turn anyone away from getting a pregnancy test, even if you can’t afford to pay anything. Contact your local family planning clinic to find out more.

What is the best pregnancy test to buy?

Home pregnancy tests all pretty much work the same way, testing for the hormone human chorionic gonadotropin (hCG) in a woman’s urine.

hCG is a protein that is secreted by the placenta shortly after fertilization. The placenta begins developing after the fertilized egg implants in a woman’s uterus, which happens about six days after conception, so the earliest these tests can be used to detect pregnancy is about six days post-conception. Because fertilization doesn’t necessarily take place the same day as intercourse, most women are advised to wait until they miss their period before trying a pregnancy test. hCG levels double about every two days in a pregnant woman, so the test is much more reliable two weeks after conception than one week later.

As to which brand of home pregnancy test works best, any type will actually give a pretty accurate result, as long as the test is done far enough along in the pregnancy.

Maine’s family planning clinics offer pregnancy testing and options counseling at our of our locations. Give us a call to learn more about all of our services.

 

Is it true that you can’t get pregnant your first time?

Thanks for asking this very important question!

The short answer is yes, you absolutely can get pregnant the first time you have sex.

Any time a man and a woman have intercourse, pregnancy is possible (of course, the chance of pregnancy is greatly reduced if you are using an effective method of birth control). All that needs to happen is for a sperm to get to an egg. Even if a young woman has never menstruated, she might have just ovulated (released an egg) for the first time. This would make her fertile and pregnancy possible.

Anytime a couple has unprotected sex, in addition to pregnancy, they are vulnerable to STDs. When used correctly and every time, condoms offer protection against pregnancy and STDs.

What is the most effective use of protection against pregnancy?

The most effective method of protection against pregnancy is the one you can use correctly and consistently, every time you have sex.

Most effective birth control methods can be separated into the following categories:

To talk with an expert about which method might be right for you, contact your local family planning health center.

can two lesbians get pregnant?

A lesbian couple can definitely get pregnant– they’ll just need to go about it a different way than most heterosexual couples.  Because pregnancy requires both sperm and an egg, and because women’s bodies don’t make sperm, many lesbian couples who want to get pregnant often use alternative fertilization methods, like artificial insemination or in vitro fertilization. 

If two women were to have sex together can one of them have a baby if one of them stuck their finger up the other ones vagina? or does one of them have to get sperm in order to do that?

Pregnancy can only occur when sperm meets an egg — so penetration with fingers alone, no matter what the gender of the people involved — won’t result in pregnancy.

However, there are lots of *methods* of joining sperm and egg in order to become pregnant, including intercourse, artificial insemination (sometimes called alternative fertilization), and in vitro fertilization– so you’re right to recognize that all kinds of couples can have babies.

I had unprotected sex this morning and the guy didn’t use a condom but he came on my stomach. is there a possible chance some sperm went inside me?

It sort of depends on when the guy pulled out.  The “pull out” or withdrawal method– when the guy pulls out and ejaculates (cums) somewhere other than inside the vagina– can be an effective way to prevent pregnancy, but only if it’s done correctly every time. The penis releases two kinds of fluid, pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) and semen– if a guy doesn’t pull out in time and any fluid is released while the penis is still inside the vagina, there’s a chance that some fluid could make it into the vagina.

Although pre-cum by itself does not contain sperm, if a male has had a recent ejaculation there may still be some sperm left in or around the urethra. So, if a male has masturbated or already had sex earlier, there may be some leftover sperm in his pre-ejaculate fluid. It’s also worth noting that there’s a risk of transmitting STDs through pre-cum, so the withdrawal method is even less effective.

Risk of pregnancy is pretty low if your partner pulled out in time (before ANY fluids were released), but if you think that he ejaculated inside of you at all, there’s a chance some sperm made it inside of you.  If you think this happened and are concerned, you can call one of our Family Planning clinics to talk about EC (emergency contraception).

It’s also always a good idea to use a condom if you want to prevent pregnancy and STDs– Family Planning clinics can provide those, as well!

me and my bf do anal sex during my periods. is there any chance of getting pregnant?

Getting pregnant through anal sex is unlikely. However, it’s possible that it could happen if semen from the anus gets into the vagina, so it’s still a good idea to use condoms or other birth control. We’re not sure what you’re using when you’re NOT on your period, but a reliable birth control method could help prevent pregnancy all month long.

However, it’s important to remember that the risk of getting an STD is even higher with anal sex than vaginal sex, since the lining of the rectum is thin and can tear easily.

To prevent STDs and pregnancy, it’s safest if you use a condom every time. Because there is less lubrication with anal sex, condoms are more likely to break than with vaginal sex, so use a lot of water-based lube to keep the condom from breaking and to keep both partners comfortable,.

If you want to talk to someone about birth control and/or STD testing, or just want to pick up some condoms and lube, you can make an appointment or stop in at a family planning clinic near you.

At what age can you stop having kids?

People can use birth control, abstinence, or surgical methods to prevent pregnancy and stop having kids at any age when they feel ready!  Some people may never want to have kids and so might use some combination of these methods for many years of their lives. Others might stop after a certain number of children, or some women may wait until menopause– when their bodies stop producing eggs and are no longer ABLE to become pregnant.

I’m pregnant and I’m 13. What do I do?

It can be difficult to figure out what to do when you find out you are pregnant at ANY age. At 13, you are just starting to deal with changes in your own body and your life as you enter your teenage years, so talking with an adult you trust (and feel safe talking to) could help you figure out what to do next. Family planning counselors can also help you figure out what your options are so that you can make the decision that’s right for you.

I had my period like 1 week and a half ago, and i am still cramping (like period cramps) so bad, which is not normal for me. i am also having pain during sex. is this a sign of an std?

Anytime you’re having pain or discomfort that isn’t normal for you, the best thing to do is to get checked out by a health care provider. Cramping and pain with sex could be signs of several different things, including pregnancy, a urinary tract infection, or an STD. It could also be a response to stress, or it could be nothing—but the ONLY way to know is to see a medical professional.

We can’t diagnose anything over maineteenhealth.com, so call your doctor’s office or make an appointment at a family planning clinic near you—most of them can see you on the same day (or next day) that you call, and all of our services are confidential and affordable.

if a girl is pregnant and she has sex without knowing she’s pregnant, what would happen?

Nothing at all would happen. Having sex while pregnant does not hurt the fetus or the pregnant woman. Some women find it uncomfortable to have sex while pregnant, but others find it very enjoyable.

is it possible for a mother can be completely healthy but the baby comes out disabled?

It is possible for babies of all different kinds of parents to be born with a disability. Sometimes those disabilities are passed down through genes (even if the mother or father doesn’t show signs of the disability), sometimes they can be a result of complications during pregnancy or childbirth, and there are some disabilities that we still don’t understand completely. There are ways to try to prevent birth defects, such as avoiding alcohol and drugs during pregnancy, but many times, parents have no control over these factors.

what if your partner gives you HIV and you don’t know that and they don’t use protection can you have a baby?

Both HIV and pregnancy can result after having unprotected sex– and neither one effects the other.

HIV can be transmitted through unprotected sexual activity (including oral, anal, and vaginal sex); the best way to protect yourself against HIV and any other STD is to use condoms correctly every time you have sex, and for you and any new partners to get tested before having sex.

Pregnancy can occur after unprotected sex between a male and female partner, even if neither person has HIV or any other STD.  People with HIV can and do have babies.

can boys get pregnant?

Pregnancy requires a fertilized egg and a uterus where a fetus can grow and develop. For most of the population, this means being a female.

However, some female-to-male transgender people can become pregnant, while still identifying and living as men. This is possible for individuals who still have functioning ovaries and a uterus.

what if a condom slips off or breaks, would it go inside of the girl or stay out so you can get it out of the girl?

If a condom slips off or breaks during sex, the best thing to do is to stop having sex immediately. The condom might still be stuck inside of the vagina (or anus, depending on the type of sexual activity), or it might still be on the penis. Either remove the condom from the vagina or anus or from the penis and throw it away. If you are going to continue to have sex, you’ll need to start with a new condom. Using lube can decrease the risk of a condom breaking.

If a condom breaks at any point during sex, both partners could be at risk for sexually transmitted diseases.

If the condom breaks after the male partner has ejaculated, there is a chance that the female could get pregnant. If she’s not on any other kind of birth control, emergency contraception is the best option to prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex (or sex after the condom breaks).

Maine Family Planning clinics provide condoms, lube, Emergency Contraception, and STD testing.

can you have sex while in labor?

It depends on the pregnancy, the pregnant person, what stage labor is in, and the type of sexual activity.

Hormones, physical discomfort, and the emotions surrounding labor all have different effects for different people; some people are not at all interested in sex while they are in labor, but others may find it comforting or pleasurable.

Digital or manual sex– using fingers or hands in order to stimulate the person in labor– is generally safe and healthy, and some experts even recommend it, because it can speed up labor.

Other sexual activity is generally considered safe, too, as long as there are no other risks with the pregnancy and the pregnant person’s water hasn’t broken. If the pregnant person’s water has already broken, sexual intercourse is NOT recommended, since there’s a risk of infection.

I gave my boyfriend a handjob and then fingered myself an hour later. My hand was dry, wiped off and i’d been driving in 15 degree temps. Could i get pregnant?

Sperm (the cells that can make someone pregnant) need to be surrounded by semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis when a guy ejaculates), and at a constant temperature to stay alive. If the semen dries up, is wiped away, or absorbed into clothes, the sperm die, and so there wouldn’t be a risk of pregnancy in this case.

I don’t understand something. People are always saying to have protected sex to prevent pregnancy and stds…but what if you want to get pregnant? Like if you just married and want to start a family..should you still have protected sex?

It sounds like you understand more than you think you do!

You’re right: in order to prevent pregnancy and STDs, it’s important to use reliable birth control, barrier methods, or abstain from sex. Birth control, condoms, and abstinence all prevent pregnancy; ONLY condoms and abstinence prevent the spread of STDs (birth control methods alone won’t protect against STDs).

However, if you aren’t worried about preventing STDs (hopefully, because you’ve both been tested and, if necessary, treated for any STDs), and if you WANT to get pregnant, you wouldn’t need to use birth control or condoms/ protection. Counselors at Family Planning clinics are great at talking with patients about planning for starting a family, and can answer questions about what methods work best for people until they are ready to have children.

Why do people say pregnancy is such a bad thing?! I mean, yes, when you’re a teen it might be difficult, but what if you’re a married adult. Don’t you have to get pregnant to have kids?! I’m so confused…without our mums getting pregnant..we would be here, so why does everyone say ALWAYS use protection.

There’s nothing bad about pregnancy; it’s a very common way for people to become parents. Our goal is to help people prevent pregnancy until they feel ready to have a child.

Because becoming pregnant and having a child as a teen is especially challenging, we place special emphasis on helping teens delay pregnancy and childbearing. We would never tell someone they should NEVER get pregnant and have children.

We help and advise people to use birth control UNTIL they are feeling ready to plan a pregnancy.  And when a person is feeling ready, we also help with planning for a healthy pregnancy.

 

If me and my girl had sex on the 24th and i cummed in her and she gets her next depo shot on the 28th. is she pregnant? i’m scared:(

It’s really great that you’re supporting your partner in her wish to not get pregnant at this time.  Here’s the answer to your excellent question:

The Depo Provera shot is over 99% effective at preventing pregnancy as long as the injection is given every 12 -13 weeks. As long as it hasn’t been more than 12 – 13 weeks since her last shot, she should still be protected from pregnancy.

There’s always some level of pregnancy risk, EVEN when a girl is on birth control, and especially if it’s been more than 13 weeks since her last shot.

If she is worried, she could ask for a pregnancy test when she gets her next shot on the 28th. Family Planning clinics offer affordable, confidential pregnancy tests and depo shots at all locations.

I’m confused on what to do, I think I might be pregnant where can I go to make sure?

It’s possible to get inexpensive, accurate pregnancy tests at any drug store—these are the kinds of tests you take at home.

Taking a test at home doesn’t help you figure out what to do, though, so your local Family Planning clinic is a great place to go. Family Planning services are completely confidential, affordable, and our counselors can help you figure out what to do next, no matter what the result of the pregnancy test is.

when i get older like 25 or 28 i want to have kids. how can i do that when i’m so scared. how i can be pregnant and be okay and be happy and be secure.

It’s totally normal to want to PREVENT pregnancy now, but know that it’s something you want in the future. The key is to figure out what you want and make a plan.

If you don’t want to get pregnant now, it would be really smart to meet with a health care provider to figure out what kind of birth control would work best for you if and when you decide to start having sex. Providers at Maine Family Planning clinics can talk about all the different options with you so that you can make a decision that works for you and for your plan.

If (or when) the time comes that you are ready to start thinking about having kids, you’ll want to plan for that, too. A health care provider can counsel you on when to STOP using birth control, how long it might take to get pregnant, and can talk with you about all the ways to make sure that you have the healthiest, safest pregnancy possible.

Planning is the key! It’s great to think about what you want now and what you might want in the future, and there are lots of safe, healthy ways to plan for the family you want, WHEN you want it.

Is it true that you can not get pregnant if you have sex on water?

Anytime semen (cum) gets into a vagina—which commonly happens during (vaginal) sex, there’s a risk of pregnancy. Birth control and condoms reduce that risk by a huge amount, but having sex on or in water doesn’t affect the chance of pregnancy.

Could you get pregnant if your boyfriend got precum on your upper and inner thigh but you wiped most of it off with a blanket once you felt it?… Notes: The girl was wearing 2 shorts, underwear and a pad. The guy was naked. It was also the day right after her period ended.

There are lots of parts to this question– all good points, so bear with us!

Even though the chances are very small that precum could cause a pregnancy, it’s not completely risk-free (precum can carry sperm if any is “left over” in the urethra from a previous ejaculation). There’s also a risk of transmitting STDs through precum. However, for pregnancy to occur, sperm must be ejaculated INTO the vagina or directly onto the vaginal opening. There are very few sperm in precum (if any) and the upper leg is far enough away that the risk of pregnancy would be very low.

While clothing can’t be counted on to protect against STDs, sperm can’t travel through clothes, so with this many layers on, there shouldn’t be a risk of pregnancy.

Finally, pregnancy can happen anytime during the menstrual cycle. It sounds like all the other factors in this situation make the risk of pregnancy VERY low, but how far (or close) you are to your period does not necessarily protect you from pregnancy.

Finally, if you are worried about pregnancy or would like to talk to someone about using birth control (or just get some condoms), the providers at family planning clinics can help.

The other day, I gave my boyfriend a handjob while fully clothed. He came in his underwear itself Later, I poured little water over my hand to remove the stickiness(It was little water only). 10 minutes later, I touched my clitoris with the same hand for 2 seconds. Can I be pregnant? I am very scared.

Sperm (the cells that can make someone pregnant) need to be surrounded by semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis when a guy ejaculates), and at a constant temperature to stay alive. If the semen dries up, is wiped or rinsed away, or is absorbed into clothes, the sperm die, and so there would NOT be a risk of pregnancy in this case.

If you are worried about pregnancy or would like to talk to someone about using birth control (or get condoms) to prevent pregnancy worries in the future, the experts at family planning clinics can help. All services are confidential and we’ll work with you to make sure  your appointment is affordable.

if i am supposed to have my period at the beginning of this week and don’t have it, should i call family planning services to schedule an appt for a pregnancy test?

If you have had unprotected sex in the last couple months, are not on birth control (or are worried that you’ve made mistakes in taking your birth control, like missing pills or forgetting to replace your patch), AND you’re late for your period, it’s probably a good idea to call a family planning clinic to schedule an appointment for a pregnancy test. If your period is really late but you haven’t had unprotected sex, it’s a good idea to give us a call anyway– we can help you figure out what’s going on with your period.

If it turns out that you are pregnant, our providers can talk to you about all of your options. If it turns out that you’re not pregnant, they can start you on a birth control method or help you find a more reliable method than the one you’re using now.

We always encourage young people to talk to an adult they can trust, but you should also know that all of the services at Maine Family Planning (and Planned Parenthood) clinics are confidential and affordable.

 

I’m 16 and I’m 9 months pregnant. My due date is coming up. I plan on only breastfeeding, not using any formula what-so-ever. I’m still with the father of the child. I’m still in school. My question is, how long am I allowed to take off of school to stay at home with my child? My counselor said only a couple of weeks, but others have said a couple months. I’m graduating at the end of May. I know I can have the possibility of pumping at school when I were to return, but is there ANY possible way I could work out a way to have my teachers send me the work and I’ll complete it all at home allowing me to stay home for up until graduation? Or if I were to attend 1-2 classes a day? Is there any possibility that I can do that? I’m worried because if I’m at school and the child gets extra hungry for milk, but the father’s out of my stored milk, that’d be a bad predicament. Is that legally acceptable to do my school work from home for about 6-7ish months if I were to attend maybe a class a day or come in for important tests?

It sounds like you’re doing a lot of work to plan for a healthy baby, a supportive relationship, and your own education.

If you haven’t already, we recommend that you connect with your local Maine Families program. Maine Families home visitors can help you figure out a lot of your questions, including breastfeeding, pumping, storing milk, and other health and development-related issues. They provide information and support that’s geared specifically to you as a parent, and they come to you at no cost.

As far as taking leave from school, there are no Maine laws about parenting students specifically (there are laws that allows you to stay in school while pregnant and to take time off work, though). Your school might have policies about the situations in which they’d make accommodations for students who cannot attend regularly, so you’ll need to work with you guidance counselor to come up with a plan that works for you and your school. If your counselor can’t help, it’s okay to talk to the Principal and even the Superintendent’s office (you may want to ask a parent or other adult you trust to help support you).

There are also schools where parenting teens can attend classes while their children attend childcare in the same building. Some programs in Maine include the Teen Parent School Program, Good Samaritan’s Teen Education Program, and Opportunity Alliance’s Young Parent Program. If you’re not able to work out a good solution with your current school, you may want to look into these options.

You are smart to be thinking about your own education, your baby’s health, and the future of your family. These are really important questions, so please reach out to your school counselors, the Maine Families program, and other adults you trust to help you advocate for yourself and your family.

 

Me & my boyfriend had unprotected sex about 4 days ago (and he came in me) and after we decided we weren’t ready to try so the next day I put my birth control in. (Nuvaring, a week late putting it in). The same day I put my Nuvaring in is the same day my fertility cycle started, what are my chances of being pregnant?

We can’t tell you your chances of being pregnant (every person is different and individual fertility is a hard thing to predict), but based on what you’ve told us, it sounds like you were NOT protected from pregnancy when you had unprotected sex 4 days ago.

Nuvaring starts working immediately if you insert it during the first day of your period, but if you insert it later in your cycle (and it sounds like you probably did), you’re not protected from pregnancy for another 7 days after the ring is inserted.

Because it can take up to 5 days after intercourse for pregnancy to actually happen, you may still have time to prevent pregnancy by taking Emergency Contraception (EC). Plan B is available over the counter (at your local drug store) or at any Family Planning clinic, though it’s less effective later than three days after sex. Ella is a prescription EC pill that can prevent pregnancy up to 5 days after unprotected sex– if you’re interested in taking Ella, you should call your local Family Planning Clinic or your regular provider right away!

 

If a girl had her period once, then after her period is done she doesn’t know that she can get pregnant on any day but she has sex with a guy that did not have a wet dream yet, and the girl since that day did not have her period does that mean she is pregnant?

There’s a lot to this question! You can also read a little more about pregnancy here.

If a girl has started her period, she’s (most likely) capable of getting pregnant, and that can happen any time during her cycle. Women can get pregnant right after their period ends or right before it’s supposed to begin– every body is different and there’s no time during the menstrual cycle when a person is completely “safe” from getting pregnant.

You might be specifying that the guy in question hasn’t had a wet dream yet because sometimes people think that means that he isn’t fertile or isn’t producing sperm yet. That’s not the case, though– some guys might never have a wet dream, even though they are producing sperm and are capable of getting someone pregnant.

If the girl has missed a period or is late for her period, that COULD be a sign of pregnancy. However, there are other reasons for irregular or missed periods, too; the only way for a person to know if they are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test at home or at a Family Planning clinic. In this situation, it might be a good idea to talk with someone at a Family Planning clinic about birth control, condoms, or just understanding how your body works.

Why do health teachers and other people make sex seem like a scary thing? I mean it’s how babies are made,so why is it such a bad thing?

Sex isn’t a bad thing (as long as it’s consensual) and it doesn’t have to be scary. Some of the consequences of sex can be “scary” or undesirable, and there’s a chance that teachers and other adults are trying to protect you from those consequences by emphasizing them.

Sex can result in sexually transmitted diseases/ infections (STDs), pregnancy, and a whole bunch of emotions. Some of those emotions are great, and sometimes people WANT to get pregnant. If people want to avoid STDs and/or pregnancy but still want to have sex, there are many different forms of birth control available (to prevent pregnancy), and using condoms can greatly reduce the risk of STDs.

As for the emotional risks involved in sex, there’s no magic pill or condom for that– and there will be emotions involved in any relationship, whether or not sex is involved. Waiting until you and your partner are both ready before having sex (and both consent), communicating about what you do (and don’t) want, and being honest with each other are all important aspects for a healthy relationship.

If you and your partner are able to have honest and open communication, are protecting yourselves from pregnancy (until you’re ready to have kids), and protecting yourselves from STDs, sex doesn’t have to be scary at all.

Why does everybody always say to use protection or else you’ll get an std.But what about what someone wants to start a family, they can’t use protection then, so why is it said that people always should?

This one is kind of about wording. IF you want to prevent the spread of STDs, using protection (condoms and/or other barriers) is the best way to do that.

However, because many STDs are curable and all of them are treatable, there are other ways to reduce the risk of spreading STDs from one partner to another. One way to reduce the risk of STDs is for both partners to get tested before ever engaging in sexual activity. If either partner has an STD, they would then get treated before having sex.

  • If the STD can be cured, getting treatment (which means finishing the whole course of treatment, and then getting re-tested to make sure the infection has been cleared) means that there will no longer be an infection that can be transmitted.
  • If the STD can not be cured (like herpes or HIV), treatment can still help reduce the risk of transmitting the infection to a partner. In those cases, condoms would still be necessary to prevent infection, but medication treatment helps keep the chances of transmission low.

For some people, trying to getting pregnant means that there is a chance they will contract an STD. With proper treatment, the risk of transmitting an STD can be greatly reduced, though not eliminated completely.

With teen pregnancy why is it that the girl is always the only one blamed and looked down upon. I mean, the male got her pregnant so why don’t people get upset with him?

Because of sexism. Sexism is when a person (or a group of people) is treated differently or unfairly, is discriminated against, or is devalued because of their sex or gender.

There is no good reason for girls to be held more accountable for pregnancy than males. When that happens, a girl is being treated differently and unfairly for the same actions taken by her male partner.

How do you tell your parents if you are pregnant?

This will probably be a difficult conversation, but it’s good that you want to talk to your parents. Pregnancy is a big deal, and having support from your family is important.

You may want to seek outside help from a counselor or other adult you can trust. Telling that person can be good practice for telling your parents. Maine Family Planning clinics provide counseling on all of your options, and providers there are experts at talking about pregnancy.

If you think it will be helpful, include the guy who’s responsible for the pregnancy, too. Be clear with him about what you need and whether or not you want him to be with you when you tell your parents.

Remember that in Maine, you have the right to seek abortion, adoption, or to parent as a teen. Although we encourage teens to talk to their parents (as long as it’s safe for them to do that), the law does not require you to notify your parents, and you don’t have to get their permission for whatever you choose.

Your parents might be disappointed, but hopefully they will be there for you. If you don’t know how they’ll react, it’s not a bad idea to have a backup plan. This might mean identifying safe places to stay, other adults you can turn to, or making sure you’ll have a ride to medical appointments. You know your family best, and it’s important that you keep yourself safe.

Want more info? We think this article from Sex, Etc. is really helpful.

Can a 18 year old get in trouble for getting a 15 year old pregnant?

As long as you both fully consented to sex, the current law in Maine says that he would NOT get in legal trouble. That doesn’t mean that someone who doesn’t know the law wouldn’t try to pursue charges or legal action, though (and we can’t tell you whether the 18-year old would be in trouble with his family). 

Hopefully, there’s an adult you can talk to. It’s really important that you see a health care provider if you think you might be pregnant. You can get confidential care at a Family Planning clinic, and a provider there can talk to you about your options. 

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