Will hormonal birth control pills make me a woman? I really want to be a woman.

The short answer is no– no matter what your sex or gender is. The hormones in birth control pills are not strong enough to change your physical characteristics, feminize your body, or help you medically transition. Hormonal medications do have some risks, and it’s very important that you only take hormones under the supervision of a medical provider.

If you’re a person who was assigned female at birth (you were born with a vagina, uterus) and you’re asking because you want to speed up puberty and grow up faster, hormonal birth control pills don’t offer a high enough dose to speed or significantly impact development. If you’re concerned about your development, it’s a good idea to see a medical provider to discuss your concerns.

If you’re a person who was assigned male at birth (you were born with a penis, testicles) and you’re asking because you want to medically transition your gender, birth control pills don’t have a high enough dose of hormones to help with transition. If you are interested in hormonal therapy for gender transition, it’s very important to do this with the guidance of a medical professional. You would need a medication to suppress your body’s natural hormones, a therapeutic dose of hormones (higher than birth control), and regular blood tests to make sure you’re healthy and safe.

If you’re an intersex person and you’re asking because you want hormones for feminization or medical transition, the dose of hormones in birth control pills is not strong enough to feminize or aid transition. If you are interested in talking about hormonal therapy, it’s very important to do so under the guidance of a medical professional.

What are steps to grow penis about average length?

There’s really nothing a person can do to grow or increase penis size.

The penis will continue to grow throughout puberty, which can start as early at 10 -12 and end as late as 16 – 18 years of age.

is it normal to want to have sex at age 15?

humans are sexual beings, so it’s normal to have sexual feelings at any age, and it’s not unusual for teens to want to have sex.

keep in mind that there’s a difference between wanting to have sex and deciding that you’re ready to ACTUALLY have sex. Before deciding to have sex, you should feel personally ready and able to freely consent to any activity– it’s never okay for someone to pressure you into sex. It’s also important to figure out what you’ll use for birth control and STD protection BEFORE you start having sex.

Whats a Boner and what does it mean for a guy to get and/or feel hard?

“Boner” is another word for erection. An erection is when the penis fills with blood to become enlarged and stiff, which is what is happening when a person gets or feels hard. An erection may happen due to sexual arousal or for no reason at all. Erections can happen at any time and are normal.


when is a good age to start shaving?

A good age to start shaving is when you start having hair on your face or body that you don’t want there (and when you can safely use a razor!). This is going to happen for different people at different ages– generally, sometime after puberty.

Some people never shave, wait a long time between shaving, or only shave certain parts of their bodies (like men who shave their faces but not their legs, or women who shave their legs but not their armpits).

i am a male / female, i dress as female everyday and i would like to start to use tampons when it get close to the end of the month as i feel like a female all the time so i would like to wear a tampons i am wondering if there is any risk of using them?

While it sounds like your gender identity is female, it’s not completely clear to us from your message what kind of body parts you have.

If you have biologically “female” body parts (a vagina, a uterus), it’s safe and normal to use tampons during your period.

If you have biologically “male” body parts (a penis, testicles), it would not be safe to use tampons. Tampons are made to be inserted into the vagina during menstruation, and are not meant to be inserted into the anus or other body parts. Because of the sensitive tissue inside the anus and the fact that it does not self-lubricate, tampons could cause irritation, tearing, or other damage to your body.

It’s important for people of all genders and with all kinds of body parts to find safe ways to express their gender identities.

scince my breasts started growing i’ve been getting really bad stretch marks there , i’m only 14 and i was wondering how this happens and how i could stop it?

Stretch marks are normal and common on any area of the body where growth happens quickly; they happen when your skin “stretches” to make room for the growing body part. Stretch marks can (and often do) appear other areas too, such as the hips, thighs, or on the stomach during pregnancy.

There’s no way to get stop stretch marks or get rid of them completely, but some people find that they appear less dramatic if you use lotion every day (to keep the skin moisturized), especially if it contains Vitamin E or Cocoa Butter. Tanning can make stretchmarks show up more dramatically.

Stretch marks are not dangerous or unhealthy. Some people don’t like the way they look, and other people appreciate them as just another feature of their bodies.

I’m 14 and I haven’t hit puberty yet because I’m really small and I don’t eat a lot. If I don’t eat enough and i don’t go through puberty will i die?

A person who doesn’t get enough food or doesn’t get proper nutrients may go through puberty later than other people their age who eat a healthy, balanced diet. For example, teens with anorexia often lose so much weight that their bodies can’t develop properly. Girls’ bodies especially require a certain amount of fat before they can go through puberty or get their periods.

There are other reasons why puberty may be delayed, including hormone imbalances, medical conditions, or simply genetics.

Delayed puberty won’t necessarily hurt you on its own, but the reasons behind why development is delayed CAN be very dangerous to your health. For example, if the reason that puberty is delayed is an underlying medical problem like kidney disease, thyroid problems, or an eating disorder, your health and life could be at risk.

If you are concerned about your body’s development, puberty, or your eating habits, you should see a health care provider. This is the only good way to know what’s going on with your body and the best thing you can do to take care of yourself.

Can a girl use a tampon if she hasn’t had sex yet?

Yes, many girls are able to use tampons because the hymen ( a membrane that covers or partially covers the opening of the vagina) becomes thinner or loosens during puberty.

I’m worried that I’m masturbating too much. How much is too much?

Masturbation or self-touching for pleasure is something many people do.  It’s a safe, healthy way to be sexual with no risk of STDs or pregnancy since you’re the only person involved. Masturbation can help you figure out what kind of touch you like and don’t like, before you are sexual with a partner.

There’s no set rule about how much masturbation is too much. When it comes to sexuality, it’s a good idea to trust your gut feelings. If you’re uncomfortable with how much you are masturbating, it might help to talk with a trusted adult about your feelings. You can also make an appointment at your local family planning clinic, where you can get confidential support for taking care of your sexual health.


Is it ok that I haven’t had my period yet and I’m in 9th grade? All of my friends have there’s and I’m worried I’m not normal.

When it comes to bodies and body parts, there is a very wide range of what it considered ‘normal.’

Generally speaking, girls have their first period anytime between the ages of 8 and 15, with the majority of them starting  when they are about 12 years old.  As a 9th grader who hasn’t had a period yet, it’s understandable for you to feel out of place (sort of like Margaret!) among friends who have already started menstruating. But you’re still within the ‘normal’ range.

If you are really worried, talk with an adult you trust about how you’re feeling. If you haven’t had a period by your sixteenth birthday, you may want to visit a health care provider to make sure everything’s okay. You can always visit your local family planning clinic to talk with our experts in the field.

How do i know if i broke my hymen or not? I haven’t had sex.

The hymen is a thin, stretchy piece of skin that covers part of the opening to the vagina. Hymens can be torn as a girl’s body grows. Using tampons, masturbating, or playing sports can also break it. Some girls are born without a hymen, and some hymens stretch, tear, or dissolve on their own over time. There’s no definite way to know if or when the hymen is torn, and it’s impossible for you, your partner(s), or even a doctor to know HOW it broke.

Because all bodies are different, some people never notice their hymen tearing and feel no pain at all; others experience some discomfort or even bleeding. If you feel truly ready for sex (or even for using tampons!) and are able to relax your body, communicate with your partner, and take things slow, there’s no need for this normal part of development to be scary, even if it does end up being uncomfortable.

I’m 15 years old and i haven’t started my period at all! I have ADHD and i have anxiety. are my medications effecting my hormones? all the girls in my family had there periods at 12. why haven’t i had mine?

Sounds like you have a lot going on. At, we can’t diagnose medical issues, but we do know that ADHD medications or anti-anxiety medications generally should not have an effect on your period.

It’s totally normal for some girls to start their periods as last as 16, but since other women in your family started at age 12, it might be worth talking with your doctor about this. Other factors that can affect your period include stress, diet, weight or other medical conditions.

You can make an appointment to talk with someone at family planning about this. If you have a “regular” primary care doctor, that person might be a good choice for talking about how all of the issues you mentioned might be affecting your body.


Why do girls have cramps when they’re on their period?

Cramps happen during a period because the uterus is contracting (kind of like it’s “flexing” its muscles) to help push the blood and tissue out of the body. Cramps can be really uncomfortable for some people, and other people won’t have them at all.

There are lots of ways to ease the discomfort of cramps, including getting exercise, taking hot baths, and taking over-the-counter medicine like ibuprofen (Advil) or acetaminophen (Tylenol).  It’s uncommon for cramps to be so bad that they interfere with going about daily activities, but if that were to happen, it would be a good idea to visit a doctor to find out what’s going on. Your local family planning clinic can be a great resource for issues related to your period.

how do I stop having nocturnal emissions?

“Nocturnal emissions,” also called wet dreams, are when semen (cum) comes out of the penis when a guy is sleeping. Wet dreams are totally normal, and many guys have them (though some don’t, and that’s normal, too). Wet dreams are just the body’s way of getting rid of semen that has built up. There isn’t a way to stop wet dreams entirely, though a guy who ejaculates on a regular basis—either during sex or masturbating—is less likely to have wet dreams. Guys start to have fewer wet dreams as they get older, too, though adults also have them.

is it normal for kids not to go through puberty?

When it comes to bodies and puberty, there is a very wide range of what it considered ‘normal.’ Generally speaking, girls go through puberty anytime between the ages of 9 and 13; boys often start puberty a little later than girls, but also start to experience changes in their early teens. You can read more about what happens during puberty here:

Like everything with our bodies, different people go through changes at different times– some people may start to go through puberty much earlier or later than their friends, and that’s normal. However, it’s *not* normal for kids to not go through puberty at all. If a person  hasn’t started to go through puberty by their late teens, it could mean that there’s something going on with their hormones or bodies, and it would be a good idea for that person to talk with a health care provider.

If you are worried about your own body or development, talk with an adult you trust. If you haven’t started to see some changes by your sixteenth birthday, you may want to visit a health care provider to make sure everything’s okay. You can always visit your local family planning clinic to talk with our experts in the field.

I have a small penis at 15 what should I do?

First of all, it’s important to remember that bodies and body parts come in all shapes and sizes. There’s no right or wrong way for a body to be, and there’s no size or shape that’s better or worse than another.

Second, your body is still growing at age 15. You’ve probably gone through a lot of changes already, and there will be more to come. The size of your penis (or nose, or feet, or hands) may still change as you continue to develop.

There’s nothing you can do to change the size or shape of your penis (or other body parts), but it’s worth pointing out that penis size doesn’t affect how satisfied people are in their relationships or with sexual activity throughout their lives.

I’m a 17 year old young lady in my senior year in HS. I have a total aversion to sex, no interest whatsoever. I think guys are cute, but I’m not sexually attracted to them. I’m not attracted to women either. My first kiss took me forever just to calm myself enough to even get near my own boyfriend for the kiss. Right before it happened, I tried to back out again and one of my girl friends saw, and pushed me towards my boyfriend. I have not kissed anyone since. That was freshman year when I was 15. I don’t even feel the urge to have anything to do with sex-related things: watching porn (I know kids who do watch), masturbating, kissing, oral, anal, full on intercourse. I just find it to be nothing I’ll ever need to be a part of in life. Is this normal for a girl my age, who’s gone through puberty and has chaotic hormones?

You’re totally normal. Puberty can be a “chaotic” time for our bodies, hormones, and for our social and romantic relationships, and everyone experiences their teen years differently. During puberty (and adulthood), some people will have TONS of thoughts about sex and relationships, while others may not experience these thoughts at all. It’s probably most common for people to fall somewhere in the middle.

It’s normal for different people to have different levels of interest in sex, and it’s also normal for that to change within a person’s lifetime. Your interest in sex may change as you get older, but if it doesn’t, that’s okay, too.

Asexuality may be something you want to read more about. Asexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person doesn’t feel sexual attraction or the desire to engage in sexual activity– though they may still have romantic relationships with others. The Asexuality Visibility & Education Network has a lot of good information on asexuality. This article from Scarleteen can also be helpful for anyone trying to figure out their sexual orientation or identity.

However you end up identifying, it’s important that you know your boundaries and what’s right for you. You’ve already experienced what it’s like to be pressured by a friend to do something you don’t want to do–and that’s not okay. No matter what your level of interest in sex might be, it’s important that you freely and enthusiastically consent to any sexual activity.

why do boys want to have sex so bad?

Sexuality is a normal and healthy part of being human, so it’s natural and totally normal for teens (and adults!) of ANY gender to be curious about and interested in sex.

Our society often makes it seem like boys want to have sex more than girls, but that’s not how things actually work. Some people want sex frequently, and some people don’t–it depends on the individual and has nothing to do with gender.

The idea that it’s normal and cool for boys to want to have sex more than girls (and that girls don’t or shouldn’t want to have sex) is what’s called the “sexual double standard.” This is harmful because it can make boys feel pressured to have sex, even if they don’t want to, and can make girls feel bad about their sexuality if they DO want to have sex.

No matter what their gender, it’s important that people are able to communicate with their partners about boundaries, and that people fully consent to any sexual activity that does happen.

Hello, I’m 12 years old and a little nervous about getting my first period. I’ve had vaginal discharge for almost 3 years now. I’m a 34A for bra size. I have to to shave my legs and underarms, and have been doing so for almost a year. For the past two months I’ve experienced spotting on the same day each time. Could that already be my period (it only lasted for a day at a time) or if not when to do you think I will get my first menstrual period. Should I start carrying a pad around? Thanks for any advice you can give <3

It’s totally normal to be nervous about getting your period and to have questions about puberty in general. It sounds like your body is changing a lot, and those changes are normal and healthy.

Everyone develops at a different rate, and different parts of your body will change at different ages. It’s not unusual to go through one or more developmental changes at an earlier age (growing body hair, for example) and for others to take a little more time (like getting your period). No matter what changes you’ve already gone through, it’s always a good idea to keep a pad with you, just in case!

There’s a chance that the regular spotting you’re having COULD be your period and that you’re just going to have a very light period for a while—it will likely become heavier and last more than one day as you get older.

In RARE cases, some girls have a blockage at the vaginal opening (called an imperforate hymen), where there is very little or no opening for menstrual blood to come out. If you can’t insert one finger into the vaginal opening, you may want to see a health care provider to find out more.

Chances are that you are developing normally and that your period is just getting started slowly. However, we can’t diagnose anything online, so if you are worried, it would be a good idea to talk to an adult you trust about your concerns. You can also come to a Family Planning clinic, where services are confidential and affordable.

I need a little help. I am eleven years of age, and I got my first period when I was ten. My breasts are not flat, and my nipples are getting darker and more sensitive all the time. I also have loads of discharge and pubic hair for years now. I am getting worried. I am afraid there is something wrong me. I feel I am too mature for the other kids my age around me. I recently confessed to my parents I depressed. Is this normal? Do you have any advice?

Although most girls will go through puberty between the ages of 8 and 15, every person is different. Some girls will start to notice changes earlier than others, and everyone’s body will change in different ways.

All of the physical changes you describe are totally normal and are signs of healthy and normal puberty– please don’t worry! It can feel scary and confusing when other kids your age are not going through the same things as you, but that’s just because they are developing at a different pace (they’ll start going through their own changes soon, as well!).

It’s normal to feel emotional during puberty. However, depression is more serious, and while it is something that many people go through, it shouldn’t be ignored or brushed off. You were right to talk to your parents about this, and hopefully they can help you find the support you need. If you need more help, you could talk to your guidance counselor, a health care provider (like a nurse or doctor), or another adult you trust. If you are in crisis and need to talk to someone, you can call the Maine Crisis Hotline at 1-888-568-1112.

I’m going to the gynecologist for the first time tmrw because I have severe period cramps. I never had sex before… so I’m really nervous. What exactly would she do?

It’s normal to be nervous about your first trip to the gynecologist! It’s also okay for you to tell her that you’re nervous and to ask her to explain everything that’s going to happen during the visit, so you know what to expect.

While we can’t make promises about what will happen at the visit, chances are that you won’t need to have a pelvic exam. The gynecologist will ask you questions about your cramps and your period, and then talk about different ways to prevent severe cramping and/ or help manage the discomfort you feel during your period. One way to make cramps less painful is to take birth control pills, so your doctor might recommend this option– this is safe and it doesn’t mean anything about whether or not you’re having sex! The gynecologist will probably want to schedule a follow-up appointment with you to see whether your cramps improve after a few months of using the strategies the two of you agree on.

Severe period cramps can be really awful, but keep in mind that they are not unusual. Your health care provider’s job is to work with you to help you feel as healthy as possible, so we hope things get better for you soon!

but why do boys want to have sex at 13-14?

Sexuality is a natural, normal part of being alive, and people will start to feel interested in sex at different ages– that’s true for both boys and girls. For some people, that might be 13 or 14. For others, it might be much later (or never, for asexual people).

It’s important to know the difference between wanting to have sex and actually being READY for sex. Before deciding to be sexually active, it’s important to know all about STDs (and how to protect yourself), birth control, and communication & consent.

If a girl had her period once, then after her period is done she doesn’t know that she can get pregnant on any day but she has sex with a guy that did not have a wet dream yet, and the girl since that day did not have her period does that mean she is pregnant?

There’s a lot to this question! You can also read a little more about pregnancy here.

If a girl has started her period, she’s (most likely) capable of getting pregnant, and that can happen any time during her cycle. Women can get pregnant right after their period ends or right before it’s supposed to begin– every body is different and there’s no time during the menstrual cycle when a person is completely “safe” from getting pregnant.

You might be specifying that the guy in question hasn’t had a wet dream yet because sometimes people think that means that he isn’t fertile or isn’t producing sperm yet. That’s not the case, though– some guys might never have a wet dream, even though they are producing sperm and are capable of getting someone pregnant.

If the girl has missed a period or is late for her period, that COULD be a sign of pregnancy. However, there are other reasons for irregular or missed periods, too; the only way for a person to know if they are pregnant is to take a pregnancy test at home or at a Family Planning clinic. In this situation, it might be a good idea to talk with someone at a Family Planning clinic about birth control, condoms, or just understanding how your body works.

As I’m getting older my period cramps seem to be getting worse. Is that normal?

It could just be your body, but it’s not necessarily “normal” or something we’d expect.  If the cramps are becoming a big problem and making it so that your period is interfering with your life (keeping you from doing the things you’d normally do), it would be a good idea to see a health care provider. Hormonal birth control can make a huge amount of difference when it comes to cramps and other things that come along with your period (like heavy bleeding or acne).

If you are sexually active, you should get tested for STDs, because chlamydia and gonorrhea can make periods worse. Both can be cured, but only once you’ve been tested!

You can talk with a provider at Maine Family Planning about your cramps, hormonal birth control, and/or STD testing; our services are confidential and affordable.

Now that I started my period, my doctor said she has to prick me– what does that mean?

We’re really not sure! Maybe she wants to test your hemoglobin (a protein found in your blood) now that you’re menstruating.

You should always feel free to ask your doctor why she wants to do any test or procedure. She’s there to help you take good care of your body, and you have a right to know everything about your own health and healthcare.

Is my penis too small?

Like all body parts, penises come in all shapes and sizes (and all parts of teens’ bodies are still growing, so things may change)– and all of those sizes are normal.

Penis size has no effect on how effective a person is at pleasing his partner or other physical actions (like peeing or masturbating).


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