Sex

Can you get pregnant when you’re on your period?

Yes, your body can ovulate (release an egg) at any time during your cycle, even when you’re having your period.  To protect yourself from becoming pregnant, it’s best to use birth control and condoms every time you have sex.

how can a 14 year old girl get pregnant with a 14 year old guy?

pregnancy happens when a sperm cell (from a guy) meets an egg cell (from a girl). pregnancy usually happens through sexual intercourse (or “vaginal” intercourse). once people have gone through puberty, pregnancy can happen no matter the ages of the people having sex.

using a condom and/or being on birth control greatly reduces the risk of becoming pregnant.

Isn’t a sexual attraction to only one person or only to those with whom you have a strong emotional bond referred to as demisexuality in some circles?

Yes, you’re exactly right. According to the Demisexual Resource Center:

Demisexuality is a sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond. Most demisexuals feel sexual attraction rarely compared to the general population, and some have little to no interest in sexual activity.

People who identify as demisexual might be attracted to people of the same gender, opposite/ other gender, or people of many genders. Demisexuality is not the same as asexuality.

are there flavored condoms?

Yes, condoms come in all kinds of flavors (and colors)! You can also buy flavored lube to use with regular/ unflavored condoms.

Flavored condoms are most commonly used during oral sex. You can also make a flavored condom into a dental dam for performing oral sex.

Some people find that flavored condoms can irritate their skin or vagina, so it’s probably better to use a regular/ un-flavored condom for vaginal or anal sex.

can you get pregnant from anal?

Getting pregnant through anal sex is very unlikely. In theory, it’s possible that it could happen if semen from the area gets into the vagina. A much bigger worry than pregnancy is STDs.

Not only can people get STDs from anal sex, the risk of getting an STD is even higher with anal sex than vaginal sex since the lining of the rectum is thin and can tear easily.

If you decide to have anal sex, use a condom and lube every time. Because there is less lubrication with anal sex, condoms are more likely to break than with vaginal sex (so use a lot of water-based lube).

How do I persuade a sexy girl to show me her naked body?

You should never try to persuade or push anyone to do anything (sexual or otherwise) that they don’t want to do. Consent and mutual respect are two of the most important things when it comes to being intimate, naked, or sexual with another person.

It’s important that both you and your partner feel ready and comfortable being naked, intimate, or sexual with each other and that neither of you feels pressured to do anything before you’re ready.

If I have sex with a robot, will my children be cyborgs?

Humans can only reproduce (make babies) with other humans. It would be impossible to have a child with a robot.

whats anal?

“anal” is usually used as shorthand or a “nickname” for anal sex. Anal sex is when a penis or other object is inserted into a partner’s anus.

Although anal sex doesn’t result in pregnancy, there’s a higher risk of STDs. As with all sexual activity, consent is essential.

what are the best options to prevent pregnancy without using condom or contraceptive pills ?

The most effective options to prevent pregnancy are what we call Long Acting Reversible Contraceptives, or LARCs. These methods include IUDs and the Implant, both of which are over 99% effective. IUDs are effective anywhere from 3 – 12 years (depending on the kind of IUD), and the Implant is effective for 3 years. A medical provider inserts the method and then you don’t have to remember to take a pill or anything– both methods can be removed by a medical provider at any time.

Abstinence or “not right now” is also an option for preventing pregnancy. If you practice abstinence 100% of the time, it will be 100% effective– though it requires willpower. It’s a good idea to have a back-up plan (like condoms and/or Emergency Contraception) if abstinence is your birth control of choice.

Other methods such as the shot, ring, and patch can also be very effective. They require a little more maintenance than an IUD or Implant– you’ll have to think about them once a week (patch), once a month (ring), or every three months (shot)–but that is still easier for some people than taking a pill every day.

Keep in mind that none of these methods protect against STDs, so unless you and your partner have both been tested (and treated, if necessary), using condoms to prevent STDs is still important.

What do I do and what does it mean if I have been having vaginal bleeding after sex?

you are right to look into this. bleeding & discomfort after sex could be due to a number of things– it could be nothing serious, or there could be medical issues that need attention.

pain and bleeding after sex can be a sign of a sexually transmitted infection, especially chlamydia.  it is easy to test for this and very easy to treat. it could also mean that you’re not lubricated enough during sex, which is something that can be addressed with communication, lube, and/ or engaging in different forms of sexual activity. the only way to figure out what’s going on is to see a health provider.

we can’t diagnose anything on MTH, so call a Family Planning clinic for a confidential visit. we do same day and next day appointments: www.maineteenhealth.org/clinics

Could you get a std without sex or sharing needles?

It’s possible to get an STD without sex or sharing needles, though those activities are much riskier than others for spreading STDs.

First, it’s important to know that we consider sex to include vaginal, oral, and anal sex. Almost all STDs can be spread through these different kinds of sex (whether you consider it sex or not). You can prevent the spread of STDs by using barriers such as condoms and dental dams during sexual activity.

When a person has herpes on their mouth (often referred to as “cold sores”), it’s possible to transmit it to another person through kissing. In order to reduce the chance of transmission, it’s best not to kiss or be sexually active during an active herpes outbreak.

HPV (the virus that can cause genital warts and cervical cancer) can be spread by skin-to-skin contact, so contact with hands, fingers, and genitals (even if sex doesn’t occur) can result in transmission of HPV. Using barrier methods (like condoms–especially internal/ female condoms, gloves, and dental dams) helps reduce the likelihood of transmission, though some risk still remains.

 

Where does AIDS enter the body?

HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, is spread when blood, semen or vaginal fluids from an infected person enter another person’s body.

Through sexual contact the virus may enter the body through the vagina, urethra or mouth, or through a tear in the lining of the rectum. About 80% of all cases of HIV are transmitted by sexual contact. Using condoms greatly reduces the risk of HIV transmission.

HIV can also be spread through infected blood when a person shares needles or other equipment used for injecting drugsor steroids. It can also be spread when a person is accidentally stuck with a needle or other sharp item that is contaminated with HIV.

It is now extremely rare in the United States for HIV to be transmitted by blood transfusions or organ transplants. Blood and organ donors are screened for risk factors. All donated blood and organs are screened for HIV.

If you are concerned about your risk for HIV, you can get tested at your local family planning clinic.

is it normal to want to have sex at age 15?

humans are sexual beings, so it’s normal to have sexual feelings at any age, and it’s not unusual for teens to want to have sex.

keep in mind that there’s a difference between wanting to have sex and deciding that you’re ready to ACTUALLY have sex. Before deciding to have sex, you should feel personally ready and able to freely consent to any activity– it’s never okay for someone to pressure you into sex. It’s also important to figure out what you’ll use for birth control and STD protection BEFORE you start having sex.

how do i get to know that my gf is a virgin?

There’s really only one way you get to know if your girlfriend is a virgin: you can ask her. But please only ask respectfully, and be okay with it if she doesn’t want to tell you. It’s a very personal question and NO ONE is obligated to tell another person about their sexual or personal lives.

Virginity means different things to different people, and because there are many different activities that can be considered “sex,” your definition and hers (and ours) might be different. This could be a good opportunity to have an open and honest conversation about sex, sexuality, and relationships. If you approach the conversation with respect and without judgment, you may both learn a lot about each other.

There’s no way to tell whether someone is a virgin through physical exams, by looking at their body, or by their behavior. While there is sometimes cultural meaning attached to virginity, it actually doesn’t mean anything– good or bad– about a person. It just means that they have or have not been sexually active before.

 

Me and my girlfriend were having sex the other day, she was having her period so we decided to have sex anally, I am 19 and she is 45, does this mean she is able to get pregnant, because I didnt pull out in time

The risk of pregnancy with anal sex is very  low, because sperm needs to travel through the vagina to the uterus in order for pregnancy to occur. However, a woman can get pregnant even if a guy ejaculates just a little bit of semen on or near the vagina, so there is a small risk.

The risk of spreading STDs through anal sex is still very high, even with withdrawal/ pulling out. Condoms are a much safer choice to avoid STDs and pregnancy.

If you or your girlfriend want more information about birth control, condoms, and/or STD testing, you can get affordable, confidential services at your local Family Planning clinic.

What if someone hasn’t had sex but thinks she is pregnant from jacking a guy off and touching her self?

Many a person’s first sexual activity, masturbation isn’t only for solo play — it may be even more fun with company! Masturbation with more than one person is often referred to as mutual masturbation. Whether solo or social, this activity is one of the safest forms of sex play. Yet there are a few helpful precautions for preventing pregnancy and STIs.

For pregnancy prevention, try to avoid getting cum and precum on or near the vulva. Even though the risk of pregnancy is significantly reduced if semen comes into contact with only the external parts of the vulva, there’s still a potential risk of pregnancy. Contact with mucous membranes (such as the inner labia, clitoris, vagina walls, or anus) allows for risk of transmission of STIs.

Because genital contact with fresh sperm carries a slight risk of pregnancy, washing and drying your hands thoroughly is your best bet. If this isn’t practical, keep a towel by the bed and dry your hands thoroughly. It may also be beneficial to wait an additional few minutes, which you may creatively spend exciting your partner without your hands.

 

can you get pregnant if your vaginal wall isnt broken. me and my bf had tried something new and i thought he still had the condom on but it he didn’t. and i don’t know if it had gotten in side of me (if it can).

It’s a little hard to tell from your message exactly what happened, but we’ll give it a try!

Vaginal walls don’t typically “break”– they can tear during childbirth, or small abrasions (almost like scrapes) can happen during intercourse. These abrasions can make it easier to transmit STDs, though they wouldn’t have an impact on pregnancy.

The hymen (a small bit of skin that covers some or all of the vaginal opening) often tears, “breaks,” or stretches by the time a girl reaches her teens. It’s possible to have sex while the hymen is still there, and it can be torn or stretched as a result of sexual activity.

If semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis during orgasm/ ejaculation) gets inside of the vagina, pregnancy is possible. Condoms and birth control greatly reduce this risk. If no semen got on or inside of the vagina, there should not be a risk of pregnancy. It’s hard to know exactly what happened in your situation, but hopefully this information helps.

Finally, removing a condom or not putting a condom on when the other partner has asked you to wear one or believes that you are wearing one can be a sign of an unhealthy relationship. You and your partner should always be clear on what you consent to and your boundaries; if a partner does not respect the activities you’ve consented to (including condom use), you may want to talk to an adult you trust, a provider at a Family Planning clinic, or other supportive professionals.

Please note that we answer website questions about once a week– if you ever need to hear from us sooner, try the text line, which we respond to within 24 hours. 

My boyfriend doesn’t nut every time we have sex.. is there something wrong? He’s had this problem for about two years.

It’s normal for people NOT to have an orgasm or ejaculate every time they have sex, regardless of their sex or gender. Our culture tells us that men always orgasm during sex, but that’s unrealistic and a gendered stereotype.

It’s only a problem or “something wrong” if your boyfriend is unhappy with this or if he has pain or discomfort that prevent orgasm/ ejaculation. If he’s frustrated or unhappy, the two of you should communicate about what feels good, what’s realistic, and how to make sure both of you are comfortable and no one feels pressured during sexual activity. If he has pain, he should see a health provider to rule out STDs or other health problems.  A Maine Family Planning clinic is a good place to start.

What are female condoms?

The female condom is a thin pouch inserted into the vagina or anus. It can be used by both men and women for safer vaginal and anal sex. It blocks sperm from reaching the egg to prevent pregnancy (it is 79% effective, on average, but 95% effective when used perfectly), and also protects against STDs, including HIV.  The female condom is disposable, and should be carefully removed and thrown away after use.
The female condom can be a little more expensive than the more common male condom, but can offer women a little more control over condom use.  It’s also made out of polyurethane (not latex), so it’s safe for people who are allergic to latex.

You can find out more about female condoms here.


My boyfriend and I were fooling around and he kept wiping his precum off with his hand and wiping it on his shirt. Later he got on top of me and kept wiping it off he didn’t go inside he just kept rubbing it on me and at this point I didn’t have panties on. Later he c**** in his hand and then wiped it off using his underwear. Five minutes later he fingered me do you think I could be pregnant?

There are a few different factors to address here. First is whether a person can get pregnant from precum. Even though the chances are very small that precum could cause a pregnancy, it’s not completely risk-free (precum can carry sperm if any is “left over” in the urethra from a previous ejaculation). There’s also a higher risk of transmitting some STDs through precum.

As far as your boyfriend wiping his hands off before fingering you, that shouldn’t be a risk. Sperm live in semen (fluid) that nourishes sperm and gives them something to swim in. If the semen dries up, is wiped away or absorbed into clothes, the sperm die.

Another question is whether pregnancy can happen if any fluid gets on the outside of the vagina. For pregnancy to occur, sperm must be ejaculated INTO the vagina or directly onto the vaginal opening– it’s not totally clear what happened in your situation, but hopefully this helps you figure out what your risk might have been.

For pregnancy prevention, try to avoid getting cum and precum on or near the vulva. Even though the risk of pregnancy is significantly reduced if semen comes into contact with only the external parts of the vulva, there’s still a potential risk of pregnancy. If you are worried about pregnancy or would like to talk to someone about using birth control (or just get some condoms), the providers at family planning clinics can help.

i’ve had unprotected sex multiple times and i’m scared that i might have gotten my girlfriend pregnant or i have STDs what do i do?

The only way for your girlfriend to know if she’s pregnant or for either of you to know if you have an STD is to get tested by a health care provider. Family planning clinics in Maine offer confidential, affordable pregnancy and STD testing, and if either test is positive, those clinics also offer counseling and/or STD treatment.

If you (and your girlfriend) go in for testing and the results are negative, a family planning provider can help you find the birth control that will work best for your girlfriend and STD protection that will work for the two of you as a couple– that way, you won’t have to worry so much about pregnancy or STDs in the future.

Hi. 2 days ago I had sex and we used a condom. But it broke and we took it out straight away. is there any chance I could be pregnant? I’m not on the pill and I don’t have a bar.

If your partner ejaculated (came) before the condom broke, and you’re not on any type of birth control, there is a chance of pregnancy. Even if your partner did not ejaculate, there is still a slight risk of pregnancy from pre-cum (the small amount of fluid that comes out of the penis before orgasm/ ejaculation).

If you’re worried about getting pregnant but don’t want to be, your only option for preventing pregnancy after a few days is to take Emergency Contraception (EC). Plan B is an EC pill you can get (without a prescription) from drug stores or any Family Planning clinic; it’s effective up to 3 days after unprotected sex, but it’s more effective the sooner you take it. Ella is another type of EC pill, and it can be effective up to 5 days after unprotected sex. You do need a prescription for Ella, though, or you can pick it up at any Family Planning clinic. EC prevents pregnancy by keeping your body from releasing an egg– EC is not an abortion.

There’s definitely still a risk of transmitting STDs when a condom breaks (because of skin-to-skin contact, pre-cum, and/or any semen (cum) that might have been in the condom before it broke), so if you haven’t both been tested, you may want to schedule a confidential test with a Family Planning clinic.

 

I’m a girl and I have never had an orgasm, how can I make that happen?

Most females need clitoral stimulation, (ie: rubbing or stroking of the clitoris) in order to have an orgasm (to come).  In the movies, it often seems like the woman comes after a few minutes of vaginal penetration, but in reality the cycle of arousal is much longer for women (around 30 or 40 minutes).  Let’s face it, the movie would have to be four hours long… Masturbation or self-touching is a way to get to know what your body responds to.  Communicate directly with your partner about what you like and don’t like.

My boyfriend thinks I’m having an orgasm, how can I tell him I’m not? I don’t want to offend him.

It’s important for partners to communicate directly with each other in order to have a mutually healthy and respectful relationship.  Some people find it’s easier to talk about these things when not in the middle of it, maybe while taking a walk, or talking on the phone.  He may be relieved to learn more about how to please you.  If he is offended, you may want to look closely at your relationship and decide if you feel respected by him.  You could also try this quiz about healthy relationships.

I had sex with my boyfriend four days ago, he came inside me. But when he did it burned which it never has so I was confused. After my vagina just hurt. But I was thinking it was just from all the friction. But its been four days and my labrium minora feels like its swollen. If burns. And it just hurts. I don’t know what’s going on. And I don’t wanna tell my mom cause its embarrassing.

Some amount of swelling and soreness after sex isn’t unusual, but it sounds like you’re having a lot of discomfort–maybe even pain. Between what you’re feeling physically and the fact that it’s been four days, it’s probably best to talk with a healthcare provider about this. We can’t diagnose anything over the Q&A line, and this could be anything from an STD to a yeast infection to an allergy.

You can talk with a Nurse Practitioner at any Family Planning clinic in Maine— we’re experts in sexual and reproductive health, so we’re used to talking about this stuff. You can schedule your own appointment and come to a clinic without your parents’ knowing (and you don’t have to get their permission).

It sounds like you’re not using condoms with your partner, so we can also discuss birth control and STD protection, if you’d like.

 

I just had anal but my friends told me that it can mess up my anus and stretch it out to the point where I won’t be able to hold things in anymore. Is this a false statement. Should I be worried.

As long as you take things slow, use plenty of lube (the anus is not self-lubricating), and don’t continue to push through pain or discomfort, anal sex won’t “mess up” your anus.

You do run the risk of tearing or injuring the lining in or around the anus if you don’t use enough lubricant, if an object (a penis, a finger, etc.) is inserted forcefully or very roughly, or if you continue even after you feel any pain. It’s very important that you and your partner communicate, that both of you consent to any activity, and that you’re both clear that you can stop at any time.

There’s an increased risk of STD transmission with anal sex, so be sure to use condoms and water-based lube if you have anal sex.

When I have sex it hurts—is that normal?

Ideally, vaginal, anal, and oral sex doesn’t hurt.  If it hurts it could mean a few things like not having enough lubrication, or that you aren’t aroused enough yet.  Try taking more time to become aroused and use a water-based lube.

However, when sex hurts it could be more serious.  It could be that you have an untreated STD.  See your health care provider to rule out any STD infections or other medical issues.

It could also be that you are not feeling ready to have sex.  If you are being pressured to have sex by someone but you’re not feeling ready, talk to someone and get help.

I had unprotected sex last night and I’m freaking out. What should I do?

It’s understandable that you’re worried, given the possible risks of having unprotected sex. But there are things you can do to reduce the negative effects of such an incident.

If you’re worried about pregnancy, you may want to consider getting emergency contraception as soon as possible. If the thought of catching an STD has you freaking out, you’ll want to consider getting tested. Although the day after having sex is too soon to get an STD test, you can call your local family planning clinic to find out when would be the best time to come in for a test.

How can I tell my friends that I want to wait to have sex? I feel like they’re pressuring me to do it.

Waiting to have sex is the safest option to prevent pregnancy and STDs. And it’s a choice many teens are making. Pressure from friends is never a good reason to have sex. And truly good friends will respect and support your personal decision to wait.

If — in the future — you change your mind about having sex, the next safest choice is to use a latex condom every time you have sex. Better yet, make sure you or your partner uses birth control along with condoms.

If I go down on my boyfriend, am I still being abstinent?

A common definition of abstinence is not having anal, oral, or vaginal sex with another person. Going down on your partner is another term for having oral sex. So, by definition, the answer to your question is no.

There is no universal definition of abstinence, so you may want to think about how you define it and decide on your own sexual boundaries based on that. Talk with your partner about your definition of abstinence and what you want from your relationship.

It’s important to remember that STDs can be transmitted through oral sex. Using a condom on a male or cutting a condom in half so it can cover the vulva on a female is the safest way to have oral sex.

I had unprotected sex, and just found out that he might’ve had an STD. Does that automatically mean I do? Or is there a chance that I might not?

Whether or not a person gets an STD after having unprotected sex with an infected person depends on several factors including – which STD is involved and the type of sexual activity. Since many people with STDs have no symptoms, the only way to know for sure is to get tested. If you do have an STD, it’s important to find out and get treated for it.

So, having unprotected sex with someone who has an STD doesn’t mean you are automatically infected but since it’s a very real possibility, your best bet is to get tested to find out.  Call your nearest family planning clinic and they will help you decided whether and when to get tested.

What is sex?

Good question! The answer depends on whether you mean ‘sex’ the noun or ‘sex’ the verb.

As a noun, ‘sex’ refers to the physical or genetic markers of a person’s gender.

As a verb, there are a wide range of activities that people use to define ‘sex.’ A broad definition would be any consensual act performed for the purpose of sexual pleasure. There are lots of ways to have sex and consent is a necessary characteristic of any definition of sex.

Figuring out your definition of sex is a process of self-discovery and asking questions is a really good step towards that.

How do you use a condom?

Congratulations! You have asked a very important question when it comes to preventing STDs and unplanned pregnancy.

The thing to remember about condoms is that it’s important to use one every time you have sex.

Our page on barrier methods has info about how to use both male and female condoms.

Why can’t teens be strong and learn how to say NO?

Hmmm, you raise an interesting question.

Since this is a teen sexual health website, let’s assume you’re asking about why teens have sex instead of practicing abstinence.

Sexuality is a natural, integral part of being alive and people have very different reasons for choosing whether and when to be sexually active. Many teens choose to be abstinent, to not have sex, until they are older and feel more ready. That’s a perfectly good decision. Likewise, deciding to have sex doesn’t necessarily mean a person is weak. It might be the result of a carefully thought out decision-making process.

If a teen does say ‘yes’ to having sex, it’s important to know all about STDs and birth control before becoming sexually active.

Are there different condom sizes? What if my condom doesn’t fit my boyfriend? Will it still work?

Condoms do come in different sizes and it’s a good idea to try different types to find the ones that work best for you and your partner. The important things are to be sure the condoms are latex or polyurethane because natural condoms don’t protect against HIV.

A condom that doesn’t stay on during sex isn’t going to provide protection from pregnancy or STDs. However, when condoms are used correctly every time, they can be as high as 97% effective. When they are not used each time or used incorrectly, their effectiveness can be as low as 86%.

Can you get STI’s from someone who has never had sex?

That depends on your definition of sex.

Sex has different meanings for different people. Most people around the world believe that a heterosexual virgin is someone, of either gender, who has never had vaginal intercourse. In lesbian and gay communities, of course, virginity is defined in other ways.

Most women and men believe they are preserving their virginity if they have sex play that does not involve vaginal intercourse. But they can still get certain sexually transmitted infections. For example, unprotected anal intercourse is a very high risk activity for all sexually transmitted infections, including HIV. Some of the infections that can be passed through oral sex are gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and hepatitis. Even kissing can transmit certain infections, such as herpes and syphilis.

So it’s always import to think about safer sex — and use condoms to reduce the risk of infection.

I was raped a while ago, and got help for it. Is it normal that when I masturbate, the person who raped me comes into my head?

I am truly sorry that you were sexually assaulted and I’m glad you got help for it. Your question about what is “normal” after being raped is not easily answered on a website. You may want to talk with someone who is trained specifically in this area and is able to have a more in-depth conversation with you.

The Maine Coalition Against Sexual Assault has a confidential 24-hour toll-free sexual assault crisis & support line accessible from anywhere in Maine. Calls are automatically routed to the closest sexual assault support center. I encourage you to call them at: 1-800-871-7741.

If a person has a Herpes Simplex 1 cold sore and then has oral sex, can they transmit the virus to the genitals and will it become Herpes 2?

This is a really good question!

It used to be that medical professionals thought of herpes 1 as primarily infecting the mouth and herpes 2 as primarily infecting the genitals, but we know now that is just not the case.  Herpes 1 can be transmitted orally to the genitals but it does not become herpes 2, it is herpes 1 of the genitals.

You can learn more about herpes here. If you need to talk with a health care professional, visit your nearest family planning clinic.

 

Can you get pregnant if you are having anal sex?

Getting pregnant through anal sex is unlikely. In theory, it’s possible that it could happen if semen from the area gets into the vagina. A much bigger worry than pregnancy is STDs.

Not only can people get STDs from anal sex, the risk of getting an STD is even higher with anal sex than vaginal sex since the lining of the rectum is thin and can tear easily.

If you decide to have anal sex, use a condom every time. Because there is less lubrication with anal sex, condoms are more likely to break than with vaginal sex. So use a lot of water-based lube.

Lots of people can have STDs without knowing it. Even if they don’t have symptoms themselves, they can still pass STDs on to a partner. So protect yourself with a condom whenever you have any type of sex — vaginal, oral, or anal.

It’s also a good idea to get tested for STDs at least once a year and whenever you have a new partner.

 

I have genital herpes, I am a female and I want to know what the percentage of me passing it along to my partner was, without a breakout and using a condom.

This is a common question that usually takes an in-depth discussion to answer.

But in broad terms, even with no outbreak and condom use, it is still possible to transmit HSV – the virus that causes herpes. This is called asymptomatic viral shedding.

I would encourage you to call your nearest family planning clinic for an appointment to talk with someone about the use of preventive antiviral medication to help protect your partner.

Can you get pregnant from pre-cum?

Thanks for the great question!  The short answer is… possibly.

During sex the penis releases two kinds of fluid, pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) and semen. Although pre-ejaculate fluid – by itself – does not contain sperm, if a male has had a recent ejaculation there may still be some sperm left in or around the urethra. So, if a male has masturbated or already had sex earlier, there may be some leftover sperm in his pre-ejaculate fluid.

And, it’s important to note, pre-ejaculate can transmit infections.

It’s always a good idea to use a condom if you want to prevent pregnancy and infection. Visit your nearest family planning clinic to get condoms and to learn more about pregnancy and STD prevention.

Is sex fun?

Sex can be many things – including fun – depending on the situation.  If the people involved both truly want to do it, and they respect each other and can communicate with each other, then it can be really fun. But if one person is feeling pressured into doing it, then it can be a very negative or tense experience.

It’s important for a person to keep checking in with themselves—is this what I want? Am I feeling pressured to do something I don’t really want? Am I pressuring my partner? Being able to talk with your partner about what you like and don’t like – and to feel empowered to stop or change what’s happening at any point, will help ensure that sex is a positive experience. Before, during and after sex happens – it’s good for you and your partner to talk, talk and talk some more!

Although sex can be fun, it comes with responsibility. Having a plan for a birth control method that will protect you against pregnancy and STDs will also make sex more worry-free and therefore more enjoyable.

What is pre-cum?

During sex the penis releases two kinds of fluid, pre-ejaculatory fluid (pre-cum) and semen.

When some men become sexually aroused, pre-cum may be visible as a clear liquid at the tip of the penis. Pre-cum is a fluid released by the Cowper’s glands, which are located at the top of a man’s urethra, just below the prostate. Pre-cum appears to neutralize the acid from urine in the urethra and to provide lubrication, paving the way for sperm.

How many times can a person cum?

The ability to have repeat orgasms is different for males and females. After men ejaculate, they enter a refractory period during which they can’t be restimulated to orgasm. A man’s refractory period can last anywhere from one minute to an hour or more. Much of it depends on age, physical fitness, and a healthy lifestyle.

Women do not have a refractory period, and may be stimulated to another orgasm immediately after having had one. Because of this, women can have many more orgasms than men in a twenty-four hour period.

 

Why does my penis get big when I am looking a pretty or sexy girl?

When you see someone that you find attractive, you may experience an erection even though you may not even be consciously thinking about sex in any way. And having an erection doesn’t have to lead to having sex.

Erections mean that you’re mentally and physically responsive, full of naturally produced, stimulating hormones. And that is very, very normal.

Can you run out of sperm?

The short answer is no.

Although a male releases hundreds of millions of sperm each time he ejaculates, the testes (balls) are very efficient at quickly making large numbers of new sperm cells. That’s why using birth control is so important if you want to prevent a pregnancy.

I had sex last night without a condom, and my girlfriend had her 2nd Depo Provera shot about 12 days ago. I pulled out, but is there any likely possibility of her being pregnant? I’m really worried.

If your girlfriend has recently had a Depo shot, then you don’t have to worry about her getting pregnant.  The shot is a long-lasting birth control method that provides excellent protection against unplanned pregnancy. It provides 13 weeks of coverage, so if she had her shot just twelve days ago you’re all set.

Using a condom is still a good idea if you want to be sure you’re protected from STDs as well as from an unplanned pregnancy.

Is it legal for a 19 year old male to rent a hotel with a 16 year old female?

While it is not illegal for a 19 year old and 16 year old to be together, some hotels may have rules about allowing unrelated guests under the age of 18 to book a room together.

My boyfriend and I were fooling around about two weeks ago. He did not ejaculate, but I know that he had precum on the head of his penis.I am stressing out about pregnancy. My stomach is getting a little bloated and my breasts feel a bit tender. I’d like to think pregnancy is just all in my head. Judging from what has happened in my case, do you think I am pregnant?

There is a small chance of pregnancy occurring from pre-ejaculatory fluid. The only way to know for sure if you are pregnant is to get a pregnancy test done. If you get one at your local family planning clinic, and you are not pregnant, we can help you find a birth control method that works for you. That way, you’ll be protected from unplanned pregnancy and save yourself from the stress of worrying about it.

My girlfriend and I had sex a week ago. We used a condom but as I pulled out it stayed in her vagina. I didn’t fully cum and the precum was stuck in the tip of the condom. Is it possible for the precum to leak out and get her pregnant?

It’s great that you and your girlfriend are taking precautions and using condoms. Even if you don’t always get it right, using condoms is a great habit to get into for keeping you safe from STDs and preventing pregnancy.

Your question about pre-ejaculatory fluid is a good one. And the answer is that there is a small possibility of pregnancy occurring from precum. Using condoms and birth control is a great way to provide yourselves with extra protection. You can get both at your local family planning clinic.

Is it a better feeling if the guy has a bigger head on his penis?

Your question raises a whole lot of questions.  Is what a better feeling?  Do you mean having sex?  And better feeling for who – the guy with the bigger penis or his sexual partner?

It’s really common to have questions about body parts – are they too big, too small, shaped wrong, and on and on.

The truth is – size and shape of reproductive organs is much less important than what’s going on inside your head and your heart when you’re having sex with someone. The best feelings come from being intimate in a way that is totally consensual and trusting. In other words, talking about things in advance so you have decided together whether and how you and your partner will be sexual is way more important that size or shape of body parts.

 

How do you use a female condom? Is it hard to put it in and how do you put it in? My health teacher says you must be comfortable with your body; is he right? Why do you have to be comfortable with your body? What if you’re a little on the heavy side and you can’t see your area?

For females using the female condom, it makes sense that you’d want to be comfortable with your own body, because you or your partner would need to insert the female condom into your vagina before having sex.  This can be done by feel or by sight—for people of any size, using a mirror or asking a partner to help with insertion could make it easier to insert the condom.  No matter what form of protection people use, it’s always a good idea to be comfortable with your own body!

 

Here’s how it works: the female condom is tube-shaped, with a flexible ring on each end; it works by preventing sperm from getting into the vagina (so it can’t fertilize an egg). The inner ring at the closed end gets inserted all the way inside the vagina to hold it in place during sex. The outer ring at the open end stays on outside the vagina. The penis is inserted into the open end of the condom.

 

Some things to know: Female condoms are 79 – 95% effective at preventing pregnancy, and can also prevent STDs.  You should never use the female condom at the same time as the male condom, because the two condoms rubbing together can cause them to break.

Female condoms are latex-free, so they are safe to use by people with latex allergies.  You can find more about female condoms here.

Me and my girlfriend had sex one week ago. I didn’t ejaculate inside her but she thinks I might have pre-cumed inside of her. She is also on the implant, but she says shes getting head aches. Is she pregnant?

It’s smart for you both to be aware that pre-cum can carry some risk of pregnancy. There’s also a risk of STDs with pre-cum, so if you haven’t both been tested for STDs, it’s a good idea to use condoms.  The implant is very effective at preventing pregnancy (99% effective), so there is a very, very small chance that she could be pregnant. There’s also a chance that the headaches are either a side effect of the hormones in the implant or not related to her sexual health at all.

Bottom line is, we can’t diagnose pregnancy through our website, so if your girlfriend is concerned about pregnancy, side effects from the implant or other health issues, she could talk with someone at a family planning clinic near her.

Me and my boyfriend were fooling around and he was rubbing his penis on the outside of my vagina. He said there was no precum and it didn’t go in but it was wet down there. Then I got up and went to the bathroom and used tissue paper and dried everything out. Can I get pregnant? I’m really scared

There is a very slight risk of pregnancy from pre-ejaculatory fluid. You may want to get EC (emergency contraception) from your nearest family planning clinic. EC can be taken up to 5 days after you have had unprotected sex, but it’s more effective the sooner you take it. In addition to getting EC, you could also talk with a family planning specialist about getting on a regular form of birth control, if you want to prevent a pregnancy at this point in your life.

does it feel better to have sex with someone who is attractive? or does it not make a difference?

The attractiveness of the people involved is one of the least important aspects of satisfying sexual encounters. If the people involved truly want to do it and they respect each other and have good communication between them, they are more likely to have a positive experience.

Also, having a plan for a birth control method that will protect you against pregnancy and STDs will also make sex more worry-free and therefore more enjoyable.

why does it feel good to have sex?

This is a great question that can be answered in many different ways.  From a physiological perspective, sex feels good because our bodies are designed for sexual pleasure. The combination of nerve cells and hormones, working with and through our brain, are responsible for the good feelings that usually accompany sexual activity.

Sexuality is physical and sensory, but it’s also chemical, emotional, psychological, intellectual, social and cultural. All of these things are processed through our brain, making it the most important sex organ in the human body.

For a more in-depth look at sex and how all the parts work together with the brain, check out this great article from Scarleteen.

What is a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy, usually shaped like an erect penis, intended for bodily penetration during masturbation or sex with partners.

Because bacteria and viruses can remain on the surface or in the pores of sex toys, cleaning them regularly before and after each use can decrease your risk of infection. Another good method of protection is to use a condom when using sex toys. And remember, never reuse condoms, even with toys.

 

 

 

I’ve heard to always wear a condom. In that case, how do I pee?

I’m glad to hear that you’ve received messages about using condoms. Condoms are a great way to prevent STDs and they’re pretty good at preventing pregnancy too!

Here’s a helpful hint: you only need to wear a condom when you’re having sex. That should answer your question about what to do when you need to pee.

Don’t forget, you can get free condoms at your local family planning clinic.

Do you use a condom while using a dildo?

A dildo is a sex toy, usually shaped like an erect penis, intended for bodily penetration during masturbation or sex with partners.

Because bacteria and viruses can remain on the surface or in the pores of sex toys, cleaning them regularly before and after each use can decrease your risk of infection. It’s also a good idea to use a condom when using sex toys. And remember, never reuse condoms, even with toys.

You can get condoms at your local family planning clinic.

can you get an STD from getting a blow job?

STDs are caused by viruses or bacteria that like warm, soft, moist places such as your mouth and genital area (penis, vulva, vagina, anus, area between penis and anus, and area between vulva and anus). STDs can spread from the genital area to the mouth and from the mouth to the genital area. They are generally passed between people via body fluids or direct contact with skin or sores.

Though there’s less risk of STDs in oral sex than in vaginal or anal sex, the risk still exists. You can get a bacterial infection of chlamydia, syphilis or gonorrhea in your mouth and/or throat, and in some rarer occasions, can develop genital warts in the mouth. Herpes is commonly passed between genitals and the mouth, and HIV can be passed through cuts in the mouth or small abrasions.

The only 100 percent effective way to avoid an STD is not to have oral, vaginal or anal sex at all. If you are planning to have oral sex, know how to make it safer by avoiding the exchange of bodily fluids and other risky contact.

Before you have oral sex, talk to your partner about sexual history, history of STDs and protection.

If you want to talk with someone about how to stay safe, visit your local family planning clinic.

if you are in a relationship with somebody then they say they have an STD, what should you do?

It can be quite a shock when someone you know and trust tells you something unexpected. You probably have mixed feelings, still wanting to be with your partner but feeling like they kept important information from you.

The good news is, this person cares enough about you and your relationship to tell you the truth about a difficult topic.

If you are in a sexual relationship, you ought to get tested for STDs. Getting tested with your partner can be a good way to rebuild trust in your relationship. And, of course, you’ll want to use a condom every time you have sex.

You can get confidential STDs testing at your local family planning clinic.

Can I get pregnant from swallowing cum?

Since your digestive system and reproductive system are not connected in any way, the answer is no.

Just as the food you eat gets digested by passing through your gastrointestinal (GI) tract, so does semen. The process of digestion kills any sperm that may be present. And even if that didn’t happen, pregnancy from swallowing semen is still impossible because your mouth doesn’t lead directly to your reproductive organs.

 

However, it’s important to remember that STDs such as herpes and HPV can be transmitted during oral sex if you or your partner is infected. It is important to practice safer sex techniques, such as using a condom or dental dam, during oral sex to reduce your risk of contracting or transmitting STDs. For more information on STD testing, contact your local family planning clinic.

I had unprotected sex last night. I have the ring as birth control and I had to take out the ring today to get my period. Could I get pregnant?

Congratulations on using a very effective method of birth control!

If you have been using the ring correctly and have had it in for at least 2 weeks, you have excellent pregnancy protection. If you’ve been using the ring for less than 2 weeks, you could be at risk for pregnancy. If that’s the case, you may want to use emergency contraception(EC), also known as Plan B or the morning after pill.

When you say you had “unprotected” sex, do you mean that you didn’t use a condom? If that’s the case, you may be at risk of getting an STD. You may want to consider getting tested for the most common STDs such as chlamydia and gonorrhea.

You can get STD testing, emergency contraception, and talk with someone about your risk for pregnancy at your local family planning clinic.

What is the most effective use of protection against pregnancy?

The most effective method of protection against pregnancy is the one you can use correctly and consistently, every time you have sex.

Most effective birth control methods can be separated into the following categories:

To talk with an expert about which method might be right for you, contact your local family planning health center.

How do i know if i broke my hymen or not? I haven’t had sex.

The hymen is a thin, stretchy piece of skin that covers part of the opening to the vagina. Hymens can be torn as a girl’s body grows. Using tampons, masturbating, or playing sports can also break it. Some girls are born without a hymen, and some hymens stretch, tear, or dissolve on their own over time. There’s no definite way to know if or when the hymen is torn, and it’s impossible for you, your partner(s), or even a doctor to know HOW it broke.

Because all bodies are different, some people never notice their hymen tearing and feel no pain at all; others experience some discomfort or even bleeding. If you feel truly ready for sex (or even for using tampons!) and are able to relax your body, communicate with your partner, and take things slow, there’s no need for this normal part of development to be scary, even if it does end up being uncomfortable.

what does it mean when a guy says that “i fucked a girl last night?”

There are a number of different activities that people consider ‘fucking’ or sex.  Most sexual health experts consider oral, vaginal AND anal sexual activity to be different ways of having sex, but what any one individual person means by this statement is probably pretty specific and personal to their own values and beliefs. 

Consent is an important component of any definition of sex. When it comes to sexual activity and sex, you have the right to decide when you do it, where you do it, and how you do it. For any sexual activity to happen, both people need to consent, or say yes, willingly and freely. Otherwise it’s considered  assault.

When I masturbate I can’t seem to reach orgasm. How can I fix that?

We’ve said it before, but it bears repeating: masturbation is a safe way for a person to experience sexual pleasure without having to worry about pregnancy, STDs or relationship dynamics.  It’s normal, it’s healthy and it should be a source of pleasure (and not stress!).  It CAN be tough for lots of people to reach orgasm (with a partner OR alone), and while there’s no “right way” to masturbate, there are some things worth remembering when you’re spending quality time with yourself.

 Masturbation is all about YOUR pleasure, so try to relax: if you’re putting too much pressure on yourself or focusing purely on a goal, you may be too tense or stressed to enjoy yourself.  Because you’re the only one involved, this is a good time to figure out what YOU like, so keep in mind that you may need to try different things as you get comfortable with your own body. 

Finally, there ARE a few health reasons that someone might not be able to reach orgasm.  Some people have a difficult time with arousal and/or orgasm because they’ve experienced abuse, assault, or other trauma in their past. In these cases, it can be really helpful to talk with a counselor or other mental health professional.  There are prescription medications that can make it difficult to orgasm (especially antidepressants), and in much rarer cases, there are medical conditions (like Multiple Sclerosis, hormonal disorders, or spinal cord injuries) that can affect the nerves and/or hormones that allow for arousal and orgasm.  If you’re worried about any of these, it’s important to talk to a nurse or doctor about what’s going on with your body.  Family Planning clinics can be a good place to start, since we’re really comfortable talking about sexuality without judgment. 

How can two women have sex?

When they hear the word “sex,” the first thing that comes to mind for a lot of people is penis-in-vagina sex that’s associated with heterosexual intercourse. That’s not the only activity considered “sex” ~ there’s oral, anal, and manual (using fingers/hands) sex. People of any gender and sexual orientation can engage in these.

Sex between two women (or two men) often feels like a mystery, since we don’t hear about that kind of intimate activity in sex education classes, in movies, music or TV shows ~ those places where we get a lot of our information about sexuality. The truth is that sex between two women (or any two individuals) is different for every couple and will vary from person to person, couple to couple, and even from week to week. It depends on the preferences, levels of trust, and readiness of the individuals involved.

Finally, while sex between two women won’t result in pregnancy, it can still spread STDs and is as emotionally serious as sex between two people of different genders.

is it okay to enjoy being pooped on during sexual intercourse or could you get a disease?

As long as everything you and your partner do during sex doesn’t hurt anyone and is consensual — meaning that both people want to participate in that activity, it’s okay to enjoy whatever you like during sex.

That said, there are precautions people should take to protect their health when dealing with bodily fluids, especially with feces (poop). There are a lot of viruses, bacteria, and other microorganisms live in feces, and many of them can cause very serious health problems (anything from fever & vomiting to Hepatitis A) if they get into the body. For this reason, it’s smart to use rubber gloves, condoms, and/or dental dams to protect the hands, mouth, vagina, and/or anus from contact with feces. Both partners should be sure to wash their bodies and hands thoroughly after any activity that involves feces.

My boyfriend is allergic to latex and polyurethane, and animal skin condoms are against his religious and moral beliefs. I’ve been on the depo provera shot for almost a year i’m thinking about using no other protection. Is there any other condom substitue that he and i can possibly use?

There is one more condom option: condoms made of a material called polyisoprene.  These are relatively new and may work best for you and your boyfriend.

Polyisoprene is a material similar to latex but is formulated to remove the compounds that cause irritation for those allergic to latex. Polyisoprene condoms feel similar to latex condoms (they are still thin and close-fitting) and are also close in price to traditional latex condoms. Currently, Lifestyles is the only company that makes polyisoprene condoms — they’re called Lifestyles SKYN.  We do carry non-latex/non-polyurethane condoms in most of our family planning clinics, though you may want to call ahead to make sure they’re in stock.

Why do lots of teens have sex when they’re so young instead of living their life as teens? They won’t have to worry about diseases or pregnancy, so why do it?

You raise an interesting question.

Since this is a teen sexual health website, let’s assume you’re asking about why teens have sex instead of practicing abstinence.

Sexuality is a natural, integral part of being alive and people have very different reasons for choosing whether and when to be sexually active. Many teens choose to be abstinent, to not have sex, until they are older and feel more ready. That’s a perfectly good decision. Likewise, deciding to have sex doesn’t necessarily mean a person is weak. It might be the result of a carefully thought out decision-making process.

If a teen does say ‘yes’ to having sex, it’s important to know all about STDs and birth control before becoming sexually active.

does sex hurt?

As long as the sex is consensual (both partners agree that they want to have sex) and both partners are aroused, sex shouldn’t hurt.  However, there are times and reasons that it can be uncomfortable or even painful. 

Sex can be painful for either partner if the genitals aren’t lubricated (“wet”) enough, so using a water-based lubricant and making sure both partners are ready and relaxed can help.  STDs (like herpes or genital warts) can make sex uncomfortable for both men and women, and for women in particular, pelvic inflammatory disease (an infection of the female reproductive organs), and other infections (like a yeast infection or urinary tract infection) can cause pain.  The best way to resolve this kind of pain is to get tested and treated for any infection or disease. 

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles surrounding the vagina spasm and tighten up, and this can also make sex uncomfortable for females in particular.  It can’t be treated with medicine, but it’s often triggered by stress or anxiety, so building trust and comfort between partners is an important way to ease vaginismus.

For most people, pain or discomfort during sex is usually a result of being tense, worried, or not ready to have sex. It’s important that anyone thinking about having sex makes sure that they are using birth control (if their partner is of the opposite sex), are using condoms or that both partners have been tested for STDs, and that both partners communicate openly and honestly.  

If you’re concerned about pain during sex, it’s a good idea to talk to a medical provider.  family planning clinics offer non-judgmental, confidential care.

How does sex feel?

Sex can feel lots of different ways depending on the situation.  If the people involved both truly want to do it, and they respect each other and can communicate with each other, then it can feel really good. But if a person is feeling pressured into doing it, is worried about pregnancy or STDs, or just isn’t into the person they are with, then it might not feel as good or could even feel bad.

It’s important to keep checking in with yourself about sex—is it what I want? Am I feeling pressured to do something I don’t really want? Am I pressuring my partner? Being able to talk with your partner about what you like and don’t like – and to feel empowered to stop or change what’s happening at any point, will help ensure that sex is a positive and pleasurable experience. Before, during and after sex happens – it’s good for you and your partner to talk, talk and talk some more!

Although sex can feel good, it comes with responsibility. Having a plan for a birth control method that will protect you against pregnancy and STDs will also make sex more worry-free and therefore more enjoyable. 

I had unprotected sex this morning and the guy didn’t use a condom but he came on my stomach. is there a possible chance some sperm went inside me?

It sort of depends on when the guy pulled out.  The “pull out” or withdrawal method– when the guy pulls out and ejaculates (cums) somewhere other than inside the vagina– can be an effective way to prevent pregnancy, but only if it’s done correctly every time. The penis releases two kinds of fluid, pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) and semen– if a guy doesn’t pull out in time and any fluid is released while the penis is still inside the vagina, there’s a chance that some fluid could make it into the vagina.

Although pre-cum by itself does not contain sperm, if a male has had a recent ejaculation there may still be some sperm left in or around the urethra. So, if a male has masturbated or already had sex earlier, there may be some leftover sperm in his pre-ejaculate fluid. It’s also worth noting that there’s a risk of transmitting STDs through pre-cum, so the withdrawal method is even less effective.

Risk of pregnancy is pretty low if your partner pulled out in time (before ANY fluids were released), but if you think that he ejaculated inside of you at all, there’s a chance some sperm made it inside of you.  If you think this happened and are concerned, you can call one of our Family Planning clinics to talk about EC (emergency contraception).

It’s also always a good idea to use a condom if you want to prevent pregnancy and STDs– Family Planning clinics can provide those, as well!

What are tips for safe and healthy anal sex?

The first tip we’ll always give is to make sure that both partners consent to sexual activity—which means that both people say yes, willingly and freely. Consent so important for all types of sexual activity, including anal sex– you have the right to decide when you do it, where you do it, who you do it with, and how you do it.

The risk of STDs is higher with anal sex than with vaginal or oral sex, since the lining of the anus is thin, does not lubricate itself, and can tear easily. This also means that it’s really important to go slow and check in with your partner, since these small tears can be uncomfortable. To protect against STDs, use a condom every time and use water-based lube to keep the condom from breaking.

Finally, there can also be a risk of bacterial infection if the penis goes from the anus to the vagina or mouth, so to prevent other kinds of infection or illness, it’s important to use a NEW, clean condom for each different kind of sexual activity.

Good communication and a reliable barrier method are important for safe and healthy sex, so before engaging in sexual activity of any type, make sure that you and your partner  talk about what feels good and how to protect yourselves.

me and my bf do anal sex during my periods. is there any chance of getting pregnant?

Getting pregnant through anal sex is unlikely. However, it’s possible that it could happen if semen from the anus gets into the vagina, so it’s still a good idea to use condoms or other birth control. We’re not sure what you’re using when you’re NOT on your period, but a reliable birth control method could help prevent pregnancy all month long.

However, it’s important to remember that the risk of getting an STD is even higher with anal sex than vaginal sex, since the lining of the rectum is thin and can tear easily.

To prevent STDs and pregnancy, it’s safest if you use a condom every time. Because there is less lubrication with anal sex, condoms are more likely to break than with vaginal sex, so use a lot of water-based lube to keep the condom from breaking and to keep both partners comfortable,.

If you want to talk to someone about birth control and/or STD testing, or just want to pick up some condoms and lube, you can make an appointment or stop in at a family planning clinic near you.

What does it mean to get your tubes tied that you can’t have sex?

Getting your tubes tied, or tubal ligation, is a surgical procedure in which the fallopian tubes are tied or cut in order to prevent eggs from being released from the ovaries into the uterus.  This is a very effective way to prevent pregnancy, but it is permanent, so is a good option only for those women who will never want to get pregnant again (or at all).

The fallopian tubes are inside the body, and having them tied or cut with this surgery doesn’t have any effect on whether a person can have sex. In fact, many people have this surgery so that they can still have sex without worrying about getting pregnant.

When girls are on their period and they have sex and the boy doesn’t use a condom would the girl get pregnant?

If the boy doesn’t use a condom and ejaculates (cums) into the vagina, the girl could get pregnant.

Although it’s most common for pregnancy to occur in the middle of a woman’s menstrual cycle (about two weeks before the first day of your period), pregnancy can occur at any time during the cycle.  This is because sperm can live for several days inside the body and wait around for an egg to be released, which can happen even a few days after the end of a woman’s period.

Abstinence, condoms, and other forms of birth control are all reliable ways to prevent pregnancy; having sex during your period is not an effective method of birth control.

I had my period like 1 week and a half ago, and i am still cramping (like period cramps) so bad, which is not normal for me. i am also having pain during sex. is this a sign of an std?

Anytime you’re having pain or discomfort that isn’t normal for you, the best thing to do is to get checked out by a health care provider. Cramping and pain with sex could be signs of several different things, including pregnancy, a urinary tract infection, or an STD. It could also be a response to stress, or it could be nothing—but the ONLY way to know is to see a medical professional.

We can’t diagnose anything over maineteenhealth.com, so call your doctor’s office or make an appointment at a family planning clinic near you—most of them can see you on the same day (or next day) that you call, and all of our services are confidential and affordable.

if a girl is pregnant and she has sex without knowing she’s pregnant, what would happen?

Nothing at all would happen. Having sex while pregnant does not hurt the fetus or the pregnant woman. Some women find it uncomfortable to have sex while pregnant, but others find it very enjoyable.

what if a condom slips off or breaks, would it go inside of the girl or stay out so you can get it out of the girl?

If a condom slips off or breaks during sex, the best thing to do is to stop having sex immediately. The condom might still be stuck inside of the vagina (or anus, depending on the type of sexual activity), or it might still be on the penis. Either remove the condom from the vagina or anus or from the penis and throw it away. If you are going to continue to have sex, you’ll need to start with a new condom. Using lube can decrease the risk of a condom breaking.

If a condom breaks at any point during sex, both partners could be at risk for sexually transmitted diseases.

If the condom breaks after the male partner has ejaculated, there is a chance that the female could get pregnant. If she’s not on any other kind of birth control, emergency contraception is the best option to prevent pregnancy after unprotected sex (or sex after the condom breaks).

Maine Family Planning clinics provide condoms, lube, Emergency Contraception, and STD testing.

is it ok if the boy pees in the condom while it’s inside of the girl?

When a guy has an erection (gets hard), he can’t pee. The body “shuts off” certain valves, and so the only fluids that can come out of the urethra (tube in the penis) while a guy has an erection are pre-cum and ejaculate (cum). That’s the first part.

Condoms only work at protecting against pregnancy and STDs if they are used WHILE the guy is hard, so leaving the penis in the vagina after it gets soft, even if there IS a condom, puts both partners at risk for STDs and puts the woman at risk for pregnancy. Since the penis should be withdrawn before it gets soft (withdraw immediately after ejaculation), and because a guy can’t pee while he has an erection, it would not be safe to pee inside a condom while it’s still inside his partner.

When you have HIV or AIDS or an STD can you still have sex?

Absolutely. People with STDs, HIV, and AIDS can all continue to have sex.

It’s very important for everyone to get tested so that they know whether or not they have an STD. If someone finds out that they DO have an STD, they should communicate with their partners about getting tested themselves, using protection, or abstaining from sex until they’ve finished treatment for that STD (depending on which STD they have). Family Planning clinics can test for all STDs and can provide treatment for most.

There is very little risk of transmitting an STD, including HIV, if the person with the infection is getting treatment AND is using condoms correctly and consistently every time they engage in any sexual activity (including oral, anal, or vaginal sex). It’s always a good idea for partners to get tested before they start having sex, and we definitely encourage all partners to talk about using protection no matter what their sexual history.

Is it possible for this website to make us not want to have sex?

We here at Maine Teen Health believe that each person should be in control of deciding when and how they want to have sex, and that no one should feel pressured, coerced, or scared into having sex if they don’t want to. We believe just as strongly that no one should be pressured or made to feel scared OUT of having sex that they DO want to engage in!  

It’s possible that some of the information on this website could make people realize that they might not be ready for sex.  We think that sexuality is a normal and healthy part of every person’s life, and we hope that knowing more about STDs, pregnancy, and other things that can come along with being sexually active simply empowers teens to make the decisions that are right for THEMSELVES, their bodies, their relationships, and their lives.

When you have any kind of disease can you still have sex?

There are some kinds of illnesses that may make it difficult, uncomfortable, or unappealing to have sex, including diseases that cause nerve damage, extreme pain, or difficulty moving certain parts of the body. Some conditions, like depression or anxiety, may make people just not want to have sex often or at all. Some diseases can be passed to another person through sex (STDs), but that just means that it’s important to use protection like condoms and other barrier methods (link)–STDs don’t prevent a person from being able to have sex.

That said, there is no disease that makes it impossible for someone to engage in sexual activity either alone or with a partner. There are many different ways to be sexual, which can include masturbation, vaginal, anal, oral, and manual sex, as well as kissing, cuddling, and even just talking intimately with another person.  People with all different bodies, conditions, and abilities can express their sexuality in different ways that feel good for themselves and their partners.

How do you know if you’re ready for sex?

Knowing when you’re ready to have sex can be difficult, and choosing to have sex for the first time (or with a new partner, even if you’ve already had sex before) is a big decision. There’s no “test” for knowing, but if both people should consent fully, which means they enthusiastically and clearly agree to sexual activity without being pressured or threatened.

Sexuality is a natural, integral part of being alive and people have very different reasons for deciding whether and when to be sexually active. Many teens choose not to have sex, until they are older and feel more ready. That’s a perfectly good decision. Likewise, deciding to have sex doesn’t necessarily mean a person is weak. It might be the result of a carefully thought out decision-making process.

If you decide that you’re ready to have sex, it’s important to know all about STDs and birth control before becoming sexually active.

My girlfriend says she walks weird after sex. is that bad?

We can’t tell from your question what part of your girlfriend’s body feels “weird” after sex. It might be that her legs are sore from being in a certain position, or that her legs fell asleep, or that she’s having some other sensation that comes from sexual activity. Some girls may feel sore after penetrative vaginal sex (sex where the penis goes into the vagina), which could make walking feel a little weird. None of these things are necessarily *bad*, unless she’s in pain.

If your girlfriend is physically uncomfortable after sex, it would be a good idea for the two of you to talk about how to make sex more comfortable. There might be things that the two of you could do, like use lube, try different positions, experiment with other ways of being intimate, or try relaxation techniques to keep from tensing up. She may want to see a family planning provider if the discomfort is worrying her.

Does sperm taste good?

Many people say that semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis and contains sperm) tastes salty, but like everything else about bodies, it varies from one guy to the next. Whether the taste of semen is enjoyable definitely differs from person to person.

However, it’s important to remember that Sexually Transmitted Diseases can be spread through semen, so oral sex can result the spread of almost any STD.  Condoms are the only way to protect against STDs during oral (as well as vaginal and anal) sex.

 

what do you do if your parents are kinda overprotective and you don’t want them to know you’re having sex but you want to start birth control?

We always encourage young people to talk with a parent or another adult that they trust about big personal decisions, like becoming sexually active and using birth control. It’s nice to have someone in your life that you can talk to about these things, but not everyone is going to be comfortable talking to their parents– that’s when it’s nice to have an older sibling, uncle or aunt, guidance counselor, or other adult you trust in your life.

That said, all of the services at Maine Family Planning clinics, including birth control, are confidential. That means that we won’t tell anyone about your care here, and you don’t need permission from your parents (or anyone else) to come to a family planning clinic, either. That’s not true of every doctor’s office, though, so if you go somewhere other than one of the clinics listed on our site, you’d want to talk with them about how they handle privacy and confidentiality.

Either way, using birth control if you are sexually active is a very responsible decision! You can make that decision for yourself and keep it private, if you choose.

What happens if someone swallows sperm?

Sexually Transmitted Diseases can be spread through semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis and contains sperm), so oral sex can result the spread of almost any STD.  STDs can be transmitted through oral sex even if the person performing oral sex DOESN’T swallow the semen; condoms are the only way to protect against STDs during oral (as well as vaginal and anal) sex.

One thing that CAN’T happen is pregnancy; there’s no way for sperm to get from the stomach to the uterus, so oral sex alone won’t result in pregnancy.

What are other names or activity; that are considered sex?

Sounds like you’re asking about what activities are considered sex. 

 

There’s a wide range of activities that are considered sex, including vaginal, oral, and anal sex—but those aren’t the only activities that can be considered sex. A broad definition would be any consensual act performed for the purpose of sexual pleasure. There are lots of ways to have sex and consent is a necessary characteristic of any definition of sex.

 

Figuring out your definition of sex is a process of self-discovery and asking questions is a really good step towards that.

is it bad if your legs are shaky after sex or masterbating?

Your legs might feel shaky from being in a certain position, or they may have started to “fall asleep,” or you may just be having some other sensation that comes from sexual activity. If the sensation is uncomfortable for you, you could try different positions during sex, or try giving your body a little time to recover before getting up and walking around. The shakiness you described is not necessarily *bad*, unless you are in pain. If your legs don’t start to feel normal again after walking around for a while or if there’s any pain, you may want to check in with a healthcare provider.

What does it mean when a guys eats a girl out?

“Eating Out” is a slang term for performing oral sex on a girl or woman. It’s sort of confusing, because there’s not really anything there to eat, but oral sex does result in an exchange of vaginal fluids and saliva, so STDs and other infections CAN be transmitted through oral sex. To reduce the risk of STDs, use dental dams during oral sex.

Why do guys seem so rough during sex? isn’t it suppose to be a love thing?

First, and most importantly, if any sexual activity is ever too rough, aggressive, or otherwise uncomfortable for either partner, it’s okay to stop, slow down, or change things up. A person never needs to continue with something that doesn’t feel good or right for them just because they said yes initially or because they are in love. For sex to be consensual, both partners must agree to engage in that sexual activity, and should also continue to check in and give consent as they go.

It’s important to know that what feels good physically might not always match up with what we’d expect based on emotions. A person can have very tender, loving feelings towards another person, but still enjoy sexual activity that is very vigorous, fast, or “rough.” On the same note, people who don’t have strong feelings towards each other can have gentle, slow, or “romantic” sex. There are all kinds of physical sensations that feel good, and all kinds of emotions that we experience towards partners—and there is no “normal” or right way for those feelings to fit together.

That said, any people engaging in sexual activities together – whether they are in love or not—should talk to each other about what they want and expect, what feels good and what doesn’t, and what they are willing to do, and what they do not consent to. Being “rough” during sex is okay if the other partner also enjoys it—but otherwise, it’s okay to ask for something different!

Do you have to shave pubic hair to have sex?

Absolutely not! People have been having sex WITH all of their pubic hair for thousands of years. Pubic hair is normal and natural; whether or not to shave any part of your body is really about whether you like the way it looks or feels.

does losing your virginity hurt ?

First off, let’s address the idea of “losing your virginity.” Lots of people use this term to refer to the first time that someone has vaginal, heterosexual (penis-in-vagina) sex. However, there are many different sexual activities that can be considered sex—including oral, anal, manual (using fingers and hands), as well as vaginal sex—and a person’s first sexual experience may include any of these and may be with a person of their own gender or a different gender.

Ideally, vaginal, anal, and oral sex doesn’t hurt, though the first time a person is penetrated by fingers or a penis may be uncomfortable. If the first time is very painful, it could mean a few things—that you don’t have enough lubrication, or that you aren’t aroused enough yet. It could also be that you are not feeling ready to have sex.

If penetrative sex continues to hurt or be uncomfortable after the first time, it could be more serious. If you are being pressured to have sex by someone but you’re not feeling ready, talk to someone and get help. Untreated STDs can also result in pain during sex; see your health care provider to rule out any STD infections or other medical issues.

is using anal beads unhealthy?

Anal beads that are made specifically for sexual activity are designed to be safe for people’s bodies. There is nothing  unhealthy about using them, as long as they are used correctly.

There are lot of bacteria in the anus, so anal beads must be cleaned between every use. For further protection against the spread of viruses and bacteria, a new condom can be used to cover the toy during each use. Because the anus is not self-lubricating, it’s important to use water-based lube in order to prevent discomfort or tearing of the walls of the anus.

What IS sex?

That’s a question that we get quite often. Here’s how we answer it:

Good question! The answer depends on whether you mean ‘sex’ the noun or ‘sex’ the verb.

As a noun, ‘sex’ refers to the physical or genetic markers of a person’s gender.

As a verb, there are a wide range of activities that people use to define ‘sex.’ A broad definition would be any consensual act performed for the purpose of sexual pleasure. There are lots of ways to have sex and consent is a necessary characteristic of any definition of sex.

Figuring out your definition of sex is a process of self-discovery and asking questions is a really good step towards that.

What happens if a person uses a broken condom?

A broken condom offers no protection from STDs or pregnancy, so using a condom that has already broken, been punctured, or slipped off puts you and your partner at the same level of risk you’d have if you didn’t use a condom at all.

Before using a condom, always check the expiration date to make sure it’s still good, then check to be sure there are no punctures in the condom wrapper (squeeze to make sure there’s still an air pocket inside), and then open carefully. Keep condoms away from extreme heat and cold, and never open a condom packet with scissors or anything sharp. NEVER re-use a condom—you’ll need a new one every time you have vaginal, oral, or anal sex. If you notice that a condom is broken, torn, or punctured, throw it away and get a new one.

You can learn more about condoms and other sex shields here.

If me and my girl had sex on the 24th and i cummed in her and she gets her next depo shot on the 28th. is she pregnant? i’m scared:(

It’s really great that you’re supporting your partner in her wish to not get pregnant at this time.  Here’s the answer to your excellent question:

The Depo Provera shot is over 99% effective at preventing pregnancy as long as the injection is given every 12 -13 weeks. As long as it hasn’t been more than 12 – 13 weeks since her last shot, she should still be protected from pregnancy.

There’s always some level of pregnancy risk, EVEN when a girl is on birth control, and especially if it’s been more than 13 weeks since her last shot.

If she is worried, she could ask for a pregnancy test when she gets her next shot on the 28th. Family Planning clinics offer affordable, confidential pregnancy tests and depo shots at all locations.

Is anal safe?

It depends on what you mean by safe.

Any UNPROTECTED sexual activity can result in the transmission of STDs—including anal, oral, and vaginal sex. In order to reduce the risk of STDs during any sexual activity–including anal sex—you and your partner must use condoms correctly and consistently every time you have sex (use dental dams for oral sex).

Anal sex carries a very low risk of pregnancy, especially if you and your partner are using condoms. In order for a woman to get pregnant, semen would have to get into the vagina to travel to the uterus to fertilize an egg. As long as semen is kept away from the vagina (by using a condom), anal sex is “safe” in terms of pregnancy.

Finally, anal sex can be uncomfortable and even harmful if the partner being penetrated isn’t relaxed, comfortable, and properly lubricated. The anus doesn’t lubricate itself the way the vagina does, so to avoid discomfort or even tearing, it’s important to use plenty of water-based lube along with a condom.

No type of sex is okay if either partner doesn’t consent to engage in that activity.

Is it true that you can not get pregnant if you have sex on water?

Anytime semen (cum) gets into a vagina—which commonly happens during (vaginal) sex, there’s a risk of pregnancy. Birth control and condoms reduce that risk by a huge amount, but having sex on or in water doesn’t affect the chance of pregnancy.

Can you get pregnant from dry humping?

Dry humping is usually defined as going through the motions of sex (rubbing fully-clothed bodies, especially genitals) against each other, but without actually having penetrative sex (where the penis goes into the vagina or anus).

As long as each partner has their clothes on, there is no risk of pregnancy from dry humping. A pregnancy can only occur of sperm are deposited onto the vaginal opening or inside of the vagina, and sperm cannot get through clothing.

If both partners are NOT wearing clothes while going through the motions of sex, this is a type of “outercourse,” and if semen (cum) gets into or onto opening of the vagina, there is a risk of pregnancy.

me and my boyfriend had sex for two days. He fully came inside of me on both days. And I am on the depo shot. Can I still get pregnant?

Depo Provera (the shot) is about 99% effective at preventing pregnancy as long as the injection is given every 12 – 13 weeks by a health care provider.

No birth control is 100% effective at preventing pregnancy, but as long as it’s been less than 13 weeks from your last depo shot, your chance of pregnancy is very low (less than 1%).

Using condoms in addition to the shot decreases the risk of pregnancy even more, AND prevents sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

 

If you have unsafe sex with an infected person, will you get pregnant, an sti, or both?

We’re guessing that when you say “infected person,” you mean a person who has a sexually transmitted disease (STD) [link to our STD page: http://www.maineteenhealth.org/stds/].

Having unprotected vaginal, anal, or oral sex with a person who has an STD does put you at risk for contracting that STD. To reduce the risk of infection, you can abstain (not engage in sexual activity), or you can use barrier methods, such as condoms and dental dams, to reduce the risk of transmission during sexual activity. Some STDs can be cured and all of them can be treated; if a person with an STD gets treatment through a medical provider, the risk of passing along that STD also decreases.

Unprotected vaginal intercourse (“penis in vagina” sex without the use of a condom or other birth control method) always carries some risk of pregnancy, regardless of whether either person does or does not have an STD. The only way to reduce the risk of pregnancy is to abstain from vaginal sex or to use contraception.

I’m horny all the time lately but yet I don’t have a partner.

We’re not sure what your question is, but you should know that it’s totally normal to feel that way!

Masturbation or self-touching for pleasure is something many people do.  It’s a safe, healthy way to be sexual with no risk of STDs or pregnancy, since you’re the only person involved. Masturbation can be a good way to figure out what kind of touch you like and don’t like, helps you get comfortable with your own body, and can be a source of pleasure when you don’t have partner (or even when you do!).

It’s also important that you’re clear with yourself and with any future partners about what you’re looking for in a relationship. From your message, it seems like you expect sexual activity to be a part of your future relationships. That is completely fine and normal, but you’ll want to communicate with your future partners to make sure that you are both on the same page in terms of what you want out of a relationship.

I’m a 17 year old young lady in my senior year in HS. I have a total aversion to sex, no interest whatsoever. I think guys are cute, but I’m not sexually attracted to them. I’m not attracted to women either. My first kiss took me forever just to calm myself enough to even get near my own boyfriend for the kiss. Right before it happened, I tried to back out again and one of my girl friends saw, and pushed me towards my boyfriend. I have not kissed anyone since. That was freshman year when I was 15. I don’t even feel the urge to have anything to do with sex-related things: watching porn (I know kids who do watch), masturbating, kissing, oral, anal, full on intercourse. I just find it to be nothing I’ll ever need to be a part of in life. Is this normal for a girl my age, who’s gone through puberty and has chaotic hormones?

You’re totally normal. Puberty can be a “chaotic” time for our bodies, hormones, and for our social and romantic relationships, and everyone experiences their teen years differently. During puberty (and adulthood), some people will have TONS of thoughts about sex and relationships, while others may not experience these thoughts at all. It’s probably most common for people to fall somewhere in the middle.

It’s normal for different people to have different levels of interest in sex, and it’s also normal for that to change within a person’s lifetime. Your interest in sex may change as you get older, but if it doesn’t, that’s okay, too.

Asexuality may be something you want to read more about. Asexuality is a sexual orientation in which a person doesn’t feel sexual attraction or the desire to engage in sexual activity– though they may still have romantic relationships with others. The Asexuality Visibility & Education Network has a lot of good information on asexuality. This article from Scarleteen can also be helpful for anyone trying to figure out their sexual orientation or identity.

However you end up identifying, it’s important that you know your boundaries and what’s right for you. You’ve already experienced what it’s like to be pressured by a friend to do something you don’t want to do–and that’s not okay. No matter what your level of interest in sex might be, it’s important that you freely and enthusiastically consent to any sexual activity.

why do boys want to have sex so bad?

Sexuality is a normal and healthy part of being human, so it’s natural and totally normal for teens (and adults!) of ANY gender to be curious about and interested in sex.

Our society often makes it seem like boys want to have sex more than girls, but that’s not how things actually work. Some people want sex frequently, and some people don’t–it depends on the individual and has nothing to do with gender.

The idea that it’s normal and cool for boys to want to have sex more than girls (and that girls don’t or shouldn’t want to have sex) is what’s called the “sexual double standard.” This is harmful because it can make boys feel pressured to have sex, even if they don’t want to, and can make girls feel bad about their sexuality if they DO want to have sex.

No matter what their gender, it’s important that people are able to communicate with their partners about boundaries, and that people fully consent to any sexual activity that does happen.

Could you get pregnant if your boyfriend got precum on your upper and inner thigh but you wiped most of it off with a blanket once you felt it?… Notes: The girl was wearing 2 shorts, underwear and a pad. The guy was naked. It was also the day right after her period ended.

There are lots of parts to this question– all good points, so bear with us!

Even though the chances are very small that precum could cause a pregnancy, it’s not completely risk-free (precum can carry sperm if any is “left over” in the urethra from a previous ejaculation). There’s also a risk of transmitting STDs through precum. However, for pregnancy to occur, sperm must be ejaculated INTO the vagina or directly onto the vaginal opening. There are very few sperm in precum (if any) and the upper leg is far enough away that the risk of pregnancy would be very low.

While clothing can’t be counted on to protect against STDs, sperm can’t travel through clothes, so with this many layers on, there shouldn’t be a risk of pregnancy.

Finally, pregnancy can happen anytime during the menstrual cycle. It sounds like all the other factors in this situation make the risk of pregnancy VERY low, but how far (or close) you are to your period does not necessarily protect you from pregnancy.

Finally, if you are worried about pregnancy or would like to talk to someone about using birth control (or just get some condoms), the providers at family planning clinics can help.

The other day, I gave my boyfriend a handjob while fully clothed. He came in his underwear itself Later, I poured little water over my hand to remove the stickiness(It was little water only). 10 minutes later, I touched my clitoris with the same hand for 2 seconds. Can I be pregnant? I am very scared.

Sperm (the cells that can make someone pregnant) need to be surrounded by semen (the fluid that comes out of the penis when a guy ejaculates), and at a constant temperature to stay alive. If the semen dries up, is wiped or rinsed away, or is absorbed into clothes, the sperm die, and so there would NOT be a risk of pregnancy in this case.

If you are worried about pregnancy or would like to talk to someone about using birth control (or get condoms) to prevent pregnancy worries in the future, the experts at family planning clinics can help. All services are confidential and we’ll work with you to make sure  your appointment is affordable.

is it possible to have ear sex?

We’re not sure exactly what you mean by “ear sex.” Some people use this term to refer to talking dirty with a partner (which is possible and is also a way to be intimate without the risk of pregnancy or STDs). Penetration of the ear by a penis is theoretically possible, but it’s NOT safe: this can damage the ear and cause infection.

It is possible to be sexual or physically intimate using any part of your body (and/or your partner’s body). The most important thing is that both partners consent to any sexual activity and that you protect yourselves from pregnancy and STDs or other infections.

 

What is the average age teens have sex?

On average, young people have intercourse for the first time around age 17 (but note that we don’t know as much about the age when people start other kinds of sexual activities or start same-sex activity). Seventeen is just an average, though, and different people will be ready at different ages. No one should feel pressure to have sex because other people their age are having sex, and no one should feel bad about being sexually active if others their age are waiting.

Once a person feels ready to start having sex, there are a few really important things to think about. First, you should feel personally ready and able to freely consent to any activity– it’s never okay for someone to pressure you into sex. It’s also important to figure out what you’ll use for birth control and STD protection BEFORE you start having sex.

Me & my boyfriend had unprotected sex about 4 days ago (and he came in me) and after we decided we weren’t ready to try so the next day I put my birth control in. (Nuvaring, a week late putting it in). The same day I put my Nuvaring in is the same day my fertility cycle started, what are my chances of being pregnant?

We can’t tell you your chances of being pregnant (every person is different and individual fertility is a hard thing to predict), but based on what you’ve told us, it sounds like you were NOT protected from pregnancy when you had unprotected sex 4 days ago.

Nuvaring starts working immediately if you insert it during the first day of your period, but if you insert it later in your cycle (and it sounds like you probably did), you’re not protected from pregnancy for another 7 days after the ring is inserted.

Because it can take up to 5 days after intercourse for pregnancy to actually happen, you may still have time to prevent pregnancy by taking Emergency Contraception (EC). Plan B is available over the counter (at your local drug store) or at any Family Planning clinic, though it’s less effective later than three days after sex. Ella is a prescription EC pill that can prevent pregnancy up to 5 days after unprotected sex– if you’re interested in taking Ella, you should call your local Family Planning Clinic or your regular provider right away!

 

but why do boys want to have sex at 13-14?

Sexuality is a natural, normal part of being alive, and people will start to feel interested in sex at different ages– that’s true for both boys and girls. For some people, that might be 13 or 14. For others, it might be much later (or never, for asexual people).

It’s important to know the difference between wanting to have sex and actually being READY for sex. Before deciding to be sexually active, it’s important to know all about STDs (and how to protect yourself), birth control, and communication & consent.

what is oral sex?

Oral sex is when one person uses their mouth or tongue to stimulate their partner’s genitals. STDs can be transmitted through oral sex, so a barrier method (condoms or dental dams) should be used for protection.

what is the average age of teen sex?

On average, young people have intercourse for the first time around age 17 (we don’t know as much about the age when people start other kinds of sexual activities or start same-sex activity, though). Seventeen is just an average, and different people will be ready at different ages. No one should feel pressure to have sex because other people their age are having sex, and no one should feel bad about being sexually active if their peers are waiting.

Once a person feels ready to start having sex, there are a few really important things to think about. First, you should feel personally ready and able to freely consent to any activity– it’s never okay for someone to pressure you into sex. It’s also important to figure out what you’ll use for birth control and STD protection BEFORE you start having sex.

why do boys make sex noises?

People of all genders make noises during sex (so, by default, those are “sex noises”). Those noises can convey pleasure, discomfort, agreement, excitement– lots of things! It’s good for people to communicate and even better to use words (to be very clear) during ANY activity with a partner.

 

 

how many orgasms can a person have in one hour?

it completely depends on the person– they could have zero orgasms or several orgasms over the course of an hour, and the number can (and probably will) be different every time they masturbate or engage in sexual activity. every person’s body is different and there really is no “normal” number.

Why do health teachers and other people make sex seem like a scary thing? I mean it’s how babies are made,so why is it such a bad thing?

Sex isn’t a bad thing (as long as it’s consensual) and it doesn’t have to be scary. Some of the consequences of sex can be “scary” or undesirable, and there’s a chance that teachers and other adults are trying to protect you from those consequences by emphasizing them.

Sex can result in sexually transmitted diseases/ infections (STDs), pregnancy, and a whole bunch of emotions. Some of those emotions are great, and sometimes people WANT to get pregnant. If people want to avoid STDs and/or pregnancy but still want to have sex, there are many different forms of birth control available (to prevent pregnancy), and using condoms can greatly reduce the risk of STDs.

As for the emotional risks involved in sex, there’s no magic pill or condom for that– and there will be emotions involved in any relationship, whether or not sex is involved. Waiting until you and your partner are both ready before having sex (and both consent), communicating about what you do (and don’t) want, and being honest with each other are all important aspects for a healthy relationship.

If you and your partner are able to have honest and open communication, are protecting yourselves from pregnancy (until you’re ready to have kids), and protecting yourselves from STDs, sex doesn’t have to be scary at all.

With teen pregnancy why is it that the girl is always the only one blamed and looked down upon. I mean, the male got her pregnant so why don’t people get upset with him?

Because of sexism. Sexism is when a person (or a group of people) is treated differently or unfairly, is discriminated against, or is devalued because of their sex or gender.

There is no good reason for girls to be held more accountable for pregnancy than males. When that happens, a girl is being treated differently and unfairly for the same actions taken by her male partner.

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